Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Putting my Brave on

I’m a total self-professed TED and TEDx geek…I love all things TED(x). Talking at TEDxWinnipeg was a dream come true when I didn’t even have that as a realistic dream. That made the TEDx talk that I did this week completely and ridiculously intimidating for me, considering that I speak regularly at all sorts of events. …

Arousal Nonconcordance–A term for us all to learn

Trigger warning: This blog will attempt to explain something that sexual assault survivors will find disturbing and upsetting.  The video goes into more explicit (but appropriate and incredibly helpful) detail. Those who have experienced sexual violence may find this blog is a trigger for them. Please take care of yourself and don’t read it if it will …

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you could not know quote on background of basket of spring tulips on blog about regret around not removing an icy patch that played a role in a tragedy.

March 29

Y’know in the movies, when there is that ominous sound? Well, in my mind, the cute little dog isn’t included…but I have often heard a sound rather like that as the calendar approaches March 29th. My body could feel the day coming.  The March breezes don’t have quite the bite that February winds do. We …

New Book: My Marriage is Almost Dead…

I heard a story about some acquaintances  a few days ago…the couple had been married for several years.  The wife was unhappy, but she hated confrontation.  She didn’t want to say anything that would hurt her husband. She didn’t want to be the source that created long and difficult conversations. So she said nothing. The situation …

Carolyn's Mistake. A blog about what I decided to do about a big expensive mistake I made.

A Mistake?

As I was going to bed on a Friday night a few weeks ago, it was quiet, and my mind lazily drifted back over the day. My mind went back to an email I had received earlier in the day, outlining next week’s schedule for Courage Camp, a conference for Certified Daring Way Facilitators.  I love delivering …

Self Compassion 101

Note: Time and date change to November 15, 6 pm-9 pm due to popular demand   If you talked to a friend like you talked to yourself, would you have any friends left? Many days, if I spoke to my friends with the same words and tone I use inside my head, it would not …

Stories of Husband Part 2

Husband loves stories.  I love stories.  I think that’s one of the many reasons we are good together.  We love to listen and tell stories.  And we love to challenge ourselves to live a better story. One of the reasons we got to walking long before we were a somethin’-somethin’ was I liked to walk …