The answer to, “I have no idea how I am going to get through this” is: You allow yourself to sob, to heave, to feel as if your heart has a boulder crashing through it. You sit with your father. You listen to his sorrow. YOu get help from your friends. And you notice that …
The Parts
For many of us, it’s very busy in our heads…multiple conversations internally with different parts of ourselves: We have one part express a fear–say, for example over having a conversation with someone–say about financies with your spouse. Another part logically goes through why it doesn’t make sense to have that fear, and runs though all …
Correct or Connect?
Is it your intention to connect or to correct? Parents who can define their parenting purpose or intention can help meet children’s vital needs, including stability, security, safety and guidance. What is your purpose of intention? To correct and manage your children or to connect with and enjoy them? For one week, count the number …
The trust bucket
Relationships are a marathon, not a sprint. When trust has been broken, it is re-earned one tiny action-that-merits-trust after another, like drops of water slowly filling the trust pail. When names have been called, and tempers have been shortit takes repeated conversations over time that are calm and respectful that has a person gradually begin …
Beauty of a Painful Honesty
There is subtle but real pressure to be “fine” when we are asked how we are. To respond with social politeness that we’re “OK”. To not acknowledge the stresses and pain of life. It’s socially acceptable to be “busy” or “stressed” but not “struggling” or “down”. I’m not sure that pressure is purely a cultural …
Today we Celebrate!
In this world of violence, intrusiveness, woundedness and pain, there is also much to revel, enjoy and celebrate. Rebecca, the woman in our office on Wednesdays announced today that she is engaged to the man of her dreams and he “popped the question” on a walk in their favorite place to wander this weekend. They …
Occupational Therapy Month
My undergrad degree is in Occupational Therapy–I’m a University of Manitoba grad. I still practice Occupational Therapy as a Marriage and Family Therapist…as an OT, I help remove the barriers that interfere with people functioning fully in their lives. In the past, before I went back to school, that has been: with people in hospitals …
Shame–The barrier to male’s lack of sensitivity?
I love that, on occasion, this blog pushes people to ponder. Leaving comments on this blog can be very difficult–I write about matters concerning the soul, and to respond to it leaving your name for all the world to see to process how this affected you is tough. Often the blog posts that affect people …
Authenticity Trumps Perfection
“Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, its the thing that’s preventing us from taking flight” Brené Brown I stumbled across Brené Brown’s blog yesterday and loved the message that she shouts, whispers, draws, encapsulates, inspires, and strives to live…that authenticity beats perfectionism. That living …
Nice Moment
Some days have neat moments when things come together and the world just feels like it’s a good place to be. It sort of makes a deep giggle come from somewhere in me–it’s not that anything is particularly funny, bur rather just profoundly delightful. It’s not even that big of a deal, except that it …