“There is a deep hole in your being, like an abyss. You will never succeed in filling that hole, because your needs are inexhaustible. You have to work around it so that gradually the abyss closes. Since the hole is so enormous and your anguish so deep, you will always be tempted to flee from …
Alcohol Breaks the Connection
Meaningful conversation when under the influence of alcohol is not productive…in many cases, actually destructive. That’s a no-brainer, right? And yet, I’ve sat in many a session people attempt to work things out while sloshed: A wife will be angry about her husband’s flirting with another at a social, and on their arrival home, there …
Hugs
For one moment our souls met our lives touched Oscar Wilde sitellite/util/snippets (code=f562f97657e3cc615dd1dcbceb97b63e) There’s something quite beautiful about the expressions and the embraces, the connection and community, the open arms and open hearts that are witnessed in this video, crossing language and culture. Hugging is healthy…undeniably. Powerful physiological, developmental effects. When hugged more, orphans gain …
Motivated by Mercy
What game do you want to play? “Who’s right” or “Let’s make life more wonderful?” Are you choosing thoughts about who is right and who is wrong and spending valuable time and energy analyzing, judging, blaming and criticizing? …Focus on your and your… [loved one’s] needs. With this refocus, you can spend your valuable time …
A Thought
Don’t try to win over the haters. You’re not the jackass whisperer. Scott Stratten, UnMarketing: Stop Marketing, Start Engaging This thought can bring freedom from unrealistic pressure. Think about it.
Gettin’ Hit When You’re Down
It’s hard to get a hit when you’re vulnerable. Even a soft punch hurts a lot when you’re not in a strong place. It’s been a long November for me. It was a day or so after Halloween that I got some sort of cold virus. I had the sorest throat for about three weeks. …
I forgot…
How much snow reflects the light and brightens the dark night when it lays over the browned autumn grass. How it’s so much brighter late at night when there is snow on the ground. All I was remembering was how cold the snow is and what a pain-in-the-butt it is to shovel. I forgot How …
Living on Borrowed Time
I went for a walk on Sunday…a long luxurious walk through the neighborhood looking at the front gardens and late autumn woods. I will go for walks throughout the year, and they will continue once the snow falls. Snow is forecast for this week. I had a sense that as I was walking along, enjoying …
Random Act of Culture
Every once in a while, during regular life of shopping, running errands, getting things done, meeting the busy demands of regular life, we are surprised by beauty. A moment where we are reminded of truth, where out souls have a chance to be refreshed by witnessing a moment that has us take pause, and pulls …
200 Brave Men…200 Wounded Boys
The trauma of childhood sexual abuse has too often focused on the vulnerability of girls. One in three girls is sexually abused…that’s a lot, a lot of girls. How many women do you know? Statistically, one in three has been violated. So, so many. So many lives changed, so many tears shed, so many hearts …