I wrote recently about the disintegration of my marriage 10 years ago…watching the one I love become increasingly distant as he disappeared into a new life away from me. One of the things I dreaded about his departure was the effect of this on my Junior Tribe Members. Y’see, I’ve worked with people for years, …
#imenough
Sigh…so many of the things I talk about with people in my day boil down to a simple, but terrifying doubt around the issue of “Am I enough?” The question comes out in various ways: “Am I pretty enough?”, “Will people like me?”, “Have I done enough to impress them?”, “What will people think of …
Building Capacity: You Can Do It!
I am not a morning person. This might be an understatement. I’m quite certain that all of my college papers were written between the hours of 11:00pm and 1:00am, and that I never really engaged meaningfully in class until after 9am and a few cups of coffee. Many years later, and in spite of parenting …
Post-summer parenting shame
It’s that time of year again, where parents pull out school supply lists and dust off indoor shoes to see if they still fit for the upcoming year. Lazy summer routines make way for structure, and boxes of KD head back to the pantry in favor of bagged lunches and portable snacks. For some people, …
FAQ’s about Adult Bullying
Bullying sucks, at any age. Bullying hurts…the irony being that the bullies in the schoolyard are often the ones being bullied in another arena. They feel hurt and powerless…and so exert power over another to push away the helplessness. Those that are bullied are often hesitant to disclose to others that they are bullied…no matter …
Life Opportunity #5: Deciding for Joy
I recently spoke to a group of young adults (and their teachers/family/friends) at their high school graduation. I’ve written beforeabout Bronnie Ware’s The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. These themes are also echoed within the walls of our therapy offices at Bergen and Associates every day, and whispered to each other in The Daring Way™ groups that I offer regularly. And I thought …
Life Opportunity #3: Express your feelings
I recently spoke to a group of young adults (and their teachers/family/friends) at their high school graduation. I’ve written beforeabout Bronnie Ware’s The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. These themes are also echoed within the walls of our therapy offices at Bergen and Associates every day, and whispered to each other in The Daring Way™ groups that I offer regularly. And I …
Life Opportunity #2: Work Well
I recently spoke to a group of young adults (and their teachers/family/friends) at their high school graduation. I’ve written before about Bronnie Ware’s The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. These themes are also echoed within the walls of our therapy offices at Bergen and Associates every day, and whispered to each other in The Daring Way™ groups that …
Life Opportunity #1: Authenticity
I recently spoke to a group of young adults (and their teachers/family/friends) at their high school graduation. I’ve written before about Bronnie Ware‘s The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. The themes of the dying are echoed within the walls of our therapy offices at Conexus Counselling every day, and whispered to each other in The …
Owning my story
Last week I was the speaker at my Junior Tribe Member’s high school graduation ceremony. It is tradition to ask a parent to speak at the school’s grad ceremony and I was tickled, thrilled and honoured to be asked. Many of the other accomplished, competent parents could have been asked…and they phoned me. I …