A few weeks ago, Husband’s finger lingered over the “send” button on a text. For a looong time, his finger hovered over the message. We had talked about it. We had together decided on a course of action with a family member. And now, he was doing his part of the implementation, and as we sat on …
We’re a pair…of Levi’s
Dear Husband, Two years ago this week, we put the Gerber daisies on the tables, and set up the volleyball nets in the gym. The friends we invited came, and the relatives we invited but didn’t think would come came too and gathered around as we exchanged vows of commitment to each other. Our kids …
Prince Harry on Talking
When Prince Harry says, “When I offload my stuff to somebody else, I feel so much better, ” he speaks from first hand knowledge. He wasn’t always that way, and he understand the value of talking in ways that only those who have stuffed their feelings for decades first can understand. He tells …
If it ain’t working for you…
**This letter, one of our most popular blog posts of all times is now a chapter in a new book, Nice to a Fault, Redefining Kindness in Marriage…now available on kindle or in paperback. If it ain’t working for you, it ain’t working for anybody! Dear Wives-who-are-lonely, I wrote to your husbands recently in a …
Does your wife impact your life?
**This blog is now a chapter in a book that expands on the ideas in this blog, Nice to a Fault: Redefining Kindness in Marriage. While it is written to women, men will receive an inside look at the struggles of women in ways that will illuminate an understanding of the issues. It might just …
Scammed
This week, someone tried to scam us at the office. Twice on the same day. For several weeks of someone from another country asking to set up a series of appointments with us while here on an extended leave. Melanie’s spidey sense said something wasn’t quite right, though nothing she could specifically point to. The gentleman …
Sweet’n’salty
Salted caramel cupcakes Chicago mix popcorn (cheddar cheese popcorn and caramel popcorn mixed) Salted caramel chocolate bar It’s only been in recent years that I have discovered these wonders of these decadent treats. It wasn’t that long ago when I would have thought that sprinkling seasalt on a dessert was utterly disgusting. And then I …
Speaking out emotional truth
I was reminded recently that growing in emotional awareness is hard work. Speaking the truth that arises out of that awareness is a lot of hard work. It can be so automatic to act passively when we have learned through painful experiences (often as children) to do whatever we can to blend in. Going with the flow …
A letter to Stuart McLean listeners
Hello there… You feel like you lost a good friend, too, right? When Stuart McLean died yesterday, we lost someone with whom we used to spend an hour a week with…and maybe more, if we bought or read his books or listened to him on podcast. Stuart was a part our our lives, and it …
The potato chips of relationships: Social Media
I spoke with Talia Ricci of Global News on the effects of social media and they posted the piece on their website today…Millenials (those born after 1984 or s0) essentially have used social media all of their adult lives. Those born before 1984 can remember a time when: we went to the video store to rent …