Love isn’t, first and foremost, a soft, mushy thing. It’s a brave, bold way of saying, “I see you, you matter, I care.” Love is controversial and dares to show itself even when it’s hard. Love takes risks, potentially looks foolish and uninformed that not exerting itself at all. And that makes loving terrifying. …
My husband attends a Widower’s Club. Yes, FYI, I’m very much alive. 😉 He was married to Car before me. She died. And that matters. So, we consider him a widower even though he is happily married. Years ago, Husband found out on a Tuesday that Car had “days to weeks” to live. He was …
We don’t have a by-line for Jonathan Scrivens on the blog…he wrote this. He and I were talking one day and he spoke about the living agony of awaiting his child’s birth these days–the waiting, the unknown. So often, when people write, they write from the perspective of the ending…after it is over. They write …
Years and years ago, Mary and I began a friendship. When Former Husband and I moved to Winnipeg, she and her husband were the first family to invite us over to a meal in their home. Eventually, (small world) she and FH became co-workers…and we often got together as couples for double dates. He …
My mom had back surgery this week. After years of crippling pain, she made it to the top of the list, and had major back surgery. We believe that this launches her into a new lease on life!! She’s walking straighter and more comfortably even just a few days. It’s remarkable what modern medicine can …
When I went to the Holocaust Museum in Washington, D.C. several years ago, I recall reading a story in a display… During World War 2, times were uncertain, and strange and frightening things were happening. We now know that evil political forces were doing horrible things that resulted in widespread suffering, torture and loss of …
One of the cool things about being director and therapist at Conexus Counselling is I meet people I wouldn’t otherwise meet. I do meet courage, remarkable people who have the strength to be vulnerable to deeply explore their stories with me–that’s true…but I’m talking about other opportunities. I know I learn so much from reading …
January is known as “Divorce Month”…a month when there is an increase in calls to lawyers from couples seeking to end their marriage. YIKES! January is also known as Marriage Health Month for couple counsellors and the couples we work with. It is our experience over the last decade and more that we have been operating as …
I love the ocean. I love the sounds of the waves, and the vastness of the sea. I love how small it makes me feel…the things I fuss about melt away when I am reminded of how big the world really is. I travelled to the ocean recently. The ability to travel to the ocean, …
We welcome Tami Shahnawaz to the blog today. Tami joined us a few months ago and she has just naturally slid into being one of us. She warms up the place, and when she talks to some, her enthusiasm for connecting meaningfully is so engaging, that a person just feels like they are the most …