Thank you to Humboldt. For showing up in your grief. You taught us much. ON poster of man curled up in grief with Broncos logo in the bottom corner

To the people of Humboldt

Dear folks of Humboldt, As a therapist, I’m a person who has the tender, holy privilege and responsibility of sitting with people in the darkest circumstances of their lives. I want to acknowledge the gift you have been to all of us Canadians–even the world. Your community has let us in on your grief and pain after …

What to do with men behaving badly

In a survey of 451 women in November of 2017: 50% of women say they have experienced sexual harassment as defined by Canada’s labour code: “any conduct, comment, gesture, or contact of a sexual nature that is likely to cause offence or humiliation to any employee; or that might, on reasonable grounds, be perceived by that …

Pink socks are an expression of solidarity and support to my Junior Tribe Member whose mother died from breast cancer.

Socks of Love

My youngest Junior Tribe Member is my son.  He does refer to me as a parent, which I totally love.  I am not his mother.  His mother died. Out of respect for his mother, he wears pink shoes. Bright pink runners on the court. When his coach told him last year to make them less …

Does your wife impact your life?

Dear husbands-whose-wives-are lonely-for-you, I’m writing this letter to you because I want you to spend the rest of your days with the love of your life. Truly I do. Some of these words may sound harsh, but they are deliberately bold and blunt because the message is so important. Some of you may recognize yourselves …

Sarah Murray–Psychology Today Sex Expert

Our therapist, Sarah Murray, is now a columnist with Psychology Today as a sex expert.  Her first article was published recently: Sarah focused her doctoral dissertation on men’s experience of sexuality, looking at the connection between sex and belonging/connection/relationship. There is no shortage of stereotypes about men’s sexuality.  There is much bravado and “locker room …

I love the ready tears of strong men

“Courage. Scared. Grace, too” On Gord Downie, vulnerability and men.

Like millions of Canadians, I can’t stop thinking about the Tragically Hip’s incredible performance on Saturday night. It wasn’t just Gord Downie’s sparkly tracksuits and feathered hats, his uniquely quirky dance moves, or the dozens of poetic songs he and his band so perfectly performed. For me, the most profound moment was during his performance …