Borderland: The Excruciating Wait

We don’t have a by-line for Jonathan Scrivens on the blog…he wrote this. He and I were talking one day and he spoke about the living agony of awaiting his child’s birth these days–the waiting, the unknown.  So often, when people write, they write from the perspective of the ending…after it is over.  They write …

Surf lessons

I love the ocean. I love the sounds of the waves, and the vastness of the sea.  I love how small it makes me feel…the things I fuss about melt away when I am reminded of how big the world really is. I travelled to the ocean recently. The ability to travel to the ocean, …

Journey to Self

We welcome Tami Shahnawaz to the blog today.  Tami joined us a few months ago and she has just naturally slid into being one of us.  She warms up the place, and when she talks to some, her enthusiasm for connecting meaningfully is so engaging, that a person just feels like they are the most …

Thunderstorms, Control, and starting therapy?

Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve hated thunderstorms. Dreaded them, actually. I would always anxiously await their ending. I remember on more than one occasion trying to hurry to bed when I knew one was rolling in at night, hoping that maybe, just maybe, I’d sleep through it. And if that didn’t work, well …

Curiosity Vs Fear

My Friday commutes downtown are some of my favorite times of the week. It is not often that I get 25 or so minutes to sit and slow with only one sort of mindless task on the go. Not that driving is exactly mindless, but it sure requires a different level of engagement than the …

Conexus Counselling is Here!

Welcome to the new business name/logo/website Conexus Counselling…home of the same therapists and same quality counselling our community has trusted and counted on for the last decade. We are now Conexus Counselling…and for a time, we’ll tag on the “formerly known as Bergen and Associates Counselling” onto the end to give folks a chance to get …

I don’t wanna see a male therapist!

Years ago, when I was studying to be a therapist, there was an expectation from the counselling school to see a therapist myself. After all, if I’m going to be a counsellor, shouldn’t I be willing to go through counselling myself? I do think it’s important for each therapist to feel, in their body, what …

Thoughts on being a therapist

The magnitude of this work is not lost on me. Four and a half years after beginning as a therapist I still find myself utterly awed at the courage and tenacity of the folks who plunk down on the couch and whisper words that have never made it outside their heads or hearts.  55 months …

Doin’ it right

“There’s no cracks in the outside foundation,” they said. “Well, if it was the window leaking, it would be running down the drywall…and it’s not, so it’s not the window,” they said. “It doesn’t seem like there is a standing water issue outside by the building,” they said. It was almost like they were trying …

Poster of one man helping another over the wall..."We don't have to do it alone. We were never meant to" Brene Brown quote

A letter to a potential client: Yep, therapy is hard

Dear Potential Client: As a person contemplating entering counselling, I feel like there are a few things you need to know.  A lot more people have considered counselling than have actually made an appointment.  So…a lot of people wonder about making an appointment, maybe even want to make an appointment…but don’t. I just wanna make …