Controlled Separation: A Marriage Coma

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Sometimes, a marriage is in such bad shape, it needs a coma. A Controlled Separation is to a couple, what a Medically Induced Coma is to a severely injured patient. Let me explain: Scientific American wrote an article about Medically Induced Coma.  A medically induced coma is a state of unconsciousness created by highly trained physicians …

“Fault?” Not relevant!

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I often hear someone refusing to come to counselling because they don’t have the problem: “If I’m not the rebellious one, why would I need counselling?” “He’s the one that drinks, not me.  He needs counselling, not me!” “My wife is the one that lost her parents in the accident. I don’t need help.” “The …

10 Rules of Engagement

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Husband and I love each other, but we don’t always see eye to eye. We have to sort out disagreement and differences of opinion and perceived and actual slights just like anybody else. I don’t like it when Husband and I are at odds with each other. My world isn’t quite right when Husband and I …

Prince Harry on Talking

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    When Prince Harry says, “When I offload my stuff to somebody else, I feel so much better, ” he speaks from first hand knowledge.  He wasn’t always that way, and he understand the value of talking in ways that only those who have stuffed their feelings for decades first can understand. He tells …

Borderland: The Excruciating Wait

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We don’t have a by-line for Jonathan Scrivens on the blog…he wrote this. He and I were talking one day and he spoke about the living agony of awaiting his child’s birth these days–the waiting, the unknown.  So often, when people write, they write from the perspective of the ending…after it is over.  They write …

Surf lessons

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I love the ocean. I love the sounds of the waves, and the vastness of the sea.  I love how small it makes me feel…the things I fuss about melt away when I am reminded of how big the world really is. I travelled to the ocean recently. The ability to travel to the ocean, …

Journey to Self

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We welcome Tami Shahnawaz to the blog today.  Tami joined us a few months ago and she has just naturally slid into being one of us.  She warms up the place, and when she talks to some, her enthusiasm for connecting meaningfully is so engaging, that a person just feels like they are the most …

Thunderstorms, Control, and starting therapy?

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Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve hated thunderstorms. Dreaded them, actually. I would always anxiously await their ending. I remember on more than one occasion trying to hurry to bed when I knew one was rolling in at night, hoping that maybe, just maybe, I’d sleep through it. And if that didn’t work, well …

Curiosity Vs Fear

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My Friday commutes downtown are some of my favorite times of the week. It is not often that I get 25 or so minutes to sit and slow with only one sort of mindless task on the go. Not that driving is exactly mindless, but it sure requires a different level of engagement than the …