This week is National Infertility Awareness Week in Canada. Infertility is a special sort of pain… …and it’s often minimized and misunderstood. When a parent has a child who dies, there is a funeral, and public mourning, and a collective grief that surrounds the family. We know as a community that the death of a …
Why men hide their truest selves
This blog post is not for the faint of heart. While it is not intended to offend, I suspect that it will make some folks uncomfortable. The following video starts off with offensive language. It’s not cool. It’s a short video, though and if you stop watching it before the end of it’s 2 minute …
Hump Day Nudge: Reality Check into being more Gentle with yourself
Through the mouths of babes… This last weekend we acknowledged those who mother us warmly and kindly and gently. Today we acknowledge those who care for us mothering types gently and kindly…who see our strengths, celebrate the beauty, and are unabashedly our cheerleaders. They see our strengths first as they look at us through the …
The Betrayal of Disengagement
If this blog interests you, you might want to grab a copy of my book that includes this idea in one of the chapters. It is the second, enhanced edition of the popular My marriage is almost dead and my husband doesn’t get it. Available in kindle or paperback form on Amazon: Disengagement…the silent, slippery …
Parenting Through Divorce
No doubt about it. Divorce is painful. Excruciating. It rocks a family’s world. And with that then, like it or not, divorce rocks a child’s world. For some kids, it is a welcome relief from the fighting and the stress and the fear that kids feel when their parents are at each other’s throats, metaphorically …
Do you enjoy your kids? Parenting stress–we do it to ourselves
Years ago, the proverbial s*%t hit the fan in our house, and we were all left reeling from what life had thrown at us. I was frantically trying to pick up the pieces, and all the while trying to look like a supportive “put together” mom to my kids. I was driving them to music …
A Swing Bridge: Like Counselling
Reprinted from our archives…feeling a little nostalgia with our lease renewal and remembering how we made the current space our own… Sometimes changing it up a little creates new conversation. That can be a good thing. That happened in our office this week.I’ve had a picture of the Sequoias in my office for about 11 …
FAQ’s: Selfies…what they tell us about us
Ummm…I hear this word “selfie” does everyone but me know what it means? Selfies are a relatively recent development, so let me let Oxford tell you: So…why would anybody take a selfie? Why take pics of yourself to post on social media? What’s the point? Ahhh…so you’re likely not a “Millennial” if you’re asking that …
Hump Day Nudge: Falling Floyd
A few weeks ago, I was leading The Daring Way ™ workshop over the weekend. One of the participants recommended the video Falling Floyd…an animated movie that essentially depicts what it is like to long for connection…feel rejected, and then what it is like to carry the shame gremlins that create pain and destruction. It’s …
Secret sharing
As a therapist, I am likely in a relatively unique position to be an authority on this having witnessed this more times than I can count: The weight of a secret can be staggering. being abused as a child having an alcoholic in the family repeating a grade as a child having an affair …