Today I played hooky. I didn’t go into the office today. I did a couple of hours of work at home, but mostly, I played. It was fun. Fun. I had a chance to be silly today, to laugh, to enjoy family, to sit in the quiet and feel the sun on my face. To …
Restrained, Wise Compassion
It was 20 years ago this week that Nelson Mandela was released from prison. I enjoyed hearing the retrospectives of that time on the radio this week, and so I was extra motivated to find a window of time to go see the movie, Invictus on Friday. Really glad I did. I’m not much a …
The Connection
My computer is down…I’m struggling not to feel like I have lost my right arm and am working to get proper perspective on things. I use it to communicate with so many personally, at the counselling office, and at the university. I use it to remind me of what is coming up next, and what …
Authenticity has staying power
Everybody is three people. We’re who we think we are, we’re who the audience thinks we are, and we’re who we really are, and the closer those three people are together, the longer your career can last. Kenny Rogers, as told to The Winnipeg Free Press, February 6th, 2010 Hmmm…thinking that he’s not just talking …
Marriage Maintenance Moments
Keeping a good marriage great is just as important as fixing the problems. I was reading Psychotherapy Networker the other day when I came across the issue of how therapists can help clients who have done some really good work on addressing problem areas in their marriage. Steven Stosny said in an the latest edition …
A Vulnerable Bravery
Rosie O’Donnell has admitted her regrets, and learned from them. We can all learn from them. The other day, I had a rare opportunity to watch an episode of Oprah. Oprah was interviewing Rosie O’Donnell. Rosie had an infamous falling out with the TV talk show, The View, where she had been a regular part …
Counterintuitiveness
Sometimes, following your gut instinct is NOT the way to go. Now I realize that might sound heretical for a therapist to say…so much of the work we do is have people work to discover what is going on inside of them, and to trust that and act on it. Mostly, that is of benefit. …
Sometimes You Just Gotta…
In the midst of a busy day, with food to cook, lessons to take, games to watch, parties to prepare for, sidewalks to clean, houses to tidy, life is full and hectic. But when the snow is right, and the spirit hits, you just gotta take advantage of the moment, and do what you don’t …
A Thought
When we are motivatedby goals that have deep meaning, by dreams that need completion by pure love that needs expressing then we truly live life. Greg Anderson Be motivated by that which is deliberately and consciously chosen…and re chosen daily. Choose what pulls you towards your dreams, your aspirations, closer to the ones you love. …
I’ve got to stop kidding myself–I’m really not that powerful
As a therapist, I help people notice the patterns of the things that aren’t working in their lives…that helps them to see the way they tend to make things happen. Once people are able to see their responsibility in the process, positive change is much more likely to occur. Sounds easy. It is not. It’s …