I’ve been reading Chris Hadfield’s book, An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth, the last coupla weeks…love his common sense wisdom, his perseverance, and heck, the whole thing about the inside peek into the life of an astronaut is fascinating for this closet science geek. One theme that comes through loud and clear throughout the …
Gruff Sweet Love
When I do premarital counselling, I will often ask the couple, “How do you know what you want your marriage to look like? Have you seen what you want to have somewhere? Do you have a couple you want to model yourselves after?” Often one or both of the couple will refer to their parents. …
Life Lessons #3 Opposites don’t forever attract
We’ve all been told that opposite attract…well…that might be true for magnets and for black cat hair on white pants…but not so much for couples. We continue our series looking at the 5 surprising but valid principles of relationships outlined in the latest issue of Psychology Today. For a long lasting union, look for someone …
Interrupting the imperceptible slide into infidelity
A week ago I blogged about the imperceptible, irresistible slide into infidelity. Part 1 then…then life happened…part 2 now. One of the funnest parts of my job is working with couples about to get married. They don’t come in with relationship problems…they come in because they know that premarital counselling is a great idea. On …
Change and Time Available
The level of work has to fit how much time you’ve got…so you need to be aware of how that affects the counselling process. Imagine your child is getting married in six months’ time…and you are having the rehearsal dinner at your house. It is exciting and you are thrilled and you want the dinner …
Being the Right Partner
Marriage is not about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person. Elliot Katz, A divorced man whose done some thinking Psychology Today has a great article on marriage which I devoured the other day. It’s a fabulous piece that will likely be hard to read for those spouses who want to …
Marriage–Adventure of Perseverance
I was at a wedding on Sunday…it was beautiful. Wonderful. I love weddings. Powerful to all witness together the commitment of a man and woman to each other through thick and thin…as I look over the grey topped heads of those who know what that really means, and sit beside youngsters who are wide-eyed at …
Dancing in the Minefields
Let’s go dancing in the minefields Let’s go sailing in the storms Oh, let’s go dancing in the minefields And kicking down the doors, Oh, let’s go dancing in the minefields And sailing in the storms This is harder than we dreamed But I believe that’s what the promise if for That’s what the promise …
Would you open a business without a business plan?
From www.StayHitched.com: Is Premarital Counselling for you? The short answer is a resounding YES. Getting married without pre-marriage prep is like starting a business or any important venture without preparing. Half of all marriages end in divorce and only half of those that endure are truly happy in the long run. Many happy engaged couples …
Premarital Counselling helps my Grandkids?
The emotional health of your grandchildren may be one of the most underrated and most compelling reasons for premarital counselling. I’m not making this up. This will make sense in a minute or two. I promise. The second half of this video is important for the discussion: So…how does what a child needs to …