Our culture today has made it hard to see true beauty. Folks are literally bombarded with thousands of images per day of “beautiful women”. Problem is, those beautiful women in the ads don’t exist. The women that posed for those ads, wished they looked like the women in those ads. Beauty that is unreachable and …
Hump Day Nudge: Sticking Together–Literally
There is very little that is of more value in this world than friends. Folks who don’t have to be with you, like family does. Folks who choose to be with you… …even after, and sometimes especially after, they get to know you. Folks who love you enough to: laugh with you until milk …
Hump Day Nudge: Someone isn’t listening
We all need to poke fun at ourselves sometimes, to laugh at ourselves in a gentle way that highlights truth in a humorous way…not to humiliate or shame ourselves, but just to invite ourselves to see things from a different angle. Hey girlfriend, if you’ve got a spouse or a male co-worker nearby who needs …
Women burning clean anger
It breaks my heart when women are so nice that they don’t tell their partners or their friends or their kids when they are mad. It frustrates me when women: suppress what they want to have happen pretend it didn’t really hurt all that much or stop themselves from expressing a different opinion on the …
Let’s talk: Internet Porn
Let’s be honest…it’s the epidemic no one talks about…but shapes our culture more than we care to admit. The availability of pornography on the internet is staggering…the ease with which anybody can access pictures of a pornographic nature is frighteningly easy. It’s an unspoken factor in many relationships…women feel ugly and fat and unloved when …
Do we let men be real?
What happens when a guy gets tired? What happens when a guy loses someone important to him? What happens when a guy gets betrayed, disappointed, loses out, gets shafted, is ambushed, has one thing after another not go his way? He experiences life as hard, that’s what. And while we might let him cuss, yell, …
Reboot Valentines Day to Generosity Day
I’m in…you, too? Maybe leave a comment letting us know what you tried and dared to lavish on another in a kindness of sorts? Celebrate love in all its beauty and messiness and heartbreak and joy…
Nuts and Bolts of TDC
I sat down with Roshonna Plett the other day and asked her to talk through what it’s like to be at TDC (Transforming Destructive into Constructive) Anger Management at Bergen and Associates. Roshonna gives a few snapshots about people’s experiences at TDC and then also provides an outline of what the two evenings cover. …
The Dance of Attunement
This video had me mesmerized. Watch it for the beauty, for the awesome dance of the thousands of birds coordinating in some sort of unspoken synchronicity of wings flapping. Of silent communication, give and take, leading and following seamlessly. Imagine the silent teamwork that is pulled off in the magic: I’ve been thinking about …
The One Thing…
…is hopefully that people can try to take away, I guess, is the relationships they have with people…when you ask someone how they are doing, do you really mean it? When you answer someone back how you’re doing, are you really telling the truth?… We live in a society of social networks and twitter pages …