I am grateful. I have colleagues that I work with daily in our offices that I respect and admire. They wow me with their insights and wisdom. If you could hear our walls talk, you would hear stories of wonder–the work with the therapists do with our clients is incredible. Sabrina Friesen is one of …
Nudging and being nudged
One of my favourite things that happens in therapy is this: A couple comes in for an initial session. There is tension between them. They are fighting. They have forgotten how to be friends…they have forgotten they are friends. They begin with the complaints…He works too hard. She complains too much. yada yada As the …
Yes I can–with the faith of another
My favourite number is 2. It has been for a while. One Junior Tribe Member (JTM) has worn 2 on his jersey for quite some time…and another wears 11 (which added up, equals that). But now “TWO” is really and truly my favoritest number, forever and ever. Its because of this pint sized little hockey …
Trust is an emotion.
Trust is an emotion–a distinctly human feeling. And normally business likes to think it runs on facts, and we think that feelings don’t belong. People who “deliver” regularly–who do everything they promise they are going to do–they are reliable…it doesn’t mean people will trust you. You know…you have a good long term friend who messes …
The Influence of Others
We are wired for connection… Yeah, I know…you’ve read that a time or two on this blog, right? What it means is that we are social creatures, wired to want to belong. We feel better when we have people surrounding us…and it is helpful to split up chores and responsibilities, to band together against the …
Hump Day Nudge: Win or lose, we’re gonna be OK
I have a deep respect for the energetic wisdom of Apollos Hester. I realize this will date me, but as I watched this man, I kept thinking…”Out of the mouths of babes…” He’s hardly a toddler, but his words seem well beyond his years, even as a young adult. He’s clearly excited after a come-from-behind …
Building Capacity: You Can Do It!
I am not a morning person. This might be an understatement. I’m quite certain that all of my college papers were written between the hours of 11:00pm and 1:00am, and that I never really engaged meaningfully in class until after 9am and a few cups of coffee. Many years later, and in spite of parenting …
Hump Day Nudge: You Don’t Have to Walk Alone
I love a cappella music…voices blending together in beautiful harmony just melts me. There’s something about voices giving beauty to each other. When a voice finds its pitch in relationship to others, well…that seems exquisite to me. Voices supporting each other, adding to the others by their own unique contribution. In a cappella music, each …
The privilege of grumbling
When I was a little girl, I couldn’t decide between being a teacher or a nurse or a ballerina when I grew up. But I knew that no matter what, I wanted to be a mother. Being a ballerina was out pretty quickly, as I never actually took ballet. (Apparently having beautiful ballerina pillow cases …
Life Opportunity #4: Have good friends
I recently spoke to a group of young adults (and their teachers/family/friends) at their high school graduation. I’ve written beforeabout Bronnie Ware’s The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. These themes are also echoed within the walls of our therapy offices at Bergen and Associates every day, and whispered to each other in The Daring Way™ groups that I offer regularly. And I thought …