When I take something on, I want to do a good job of it, so in the main roles of my life, I try hard: a great mom an awesome wife a kick-ass therapist a conscientious global citizen I measure carefully how much I can get done. When I’m asked to speak at a conference …
Today, October 10, is World Mental Health Day…an opportunity for us all to focus on how to improve our mental health. Just as physical exercise, eating right, and proper sleep is good for our physical health, we need strategies and disciplines to improve our mental health. Helpful mental health disciplines help mentally healthy people stay …
Hello Client, It’s been a while since we’ve seen you at the office. If you successfully completed therapy, please know we are so glad therapy helped you get to a better place. We love it when clients graduate from therapy! Others of you kinda drifted away from therapy without completing the work. If that’s the …
Dear Son, So many thoughts and feelings and words inside me, this morning after the night of your team’s great National Championship loss. So many things deliberately unsaid yesterday…yesterday was a day of silent comfort, sitting in the sadness with you. Words weren’t a good idea yesterday. And today, you are a couple of time …
I’ve been thinking a lot as we go into the new year about using the challenges of life as an opportunity to be creative, to grow, and learn, and make something even better than was before. Challenges can inspire creativity and options considered that wouldn’t have been otherwise been needed. This thinking started with a …
As I was going to bed on a Friday night a few weeks ago, it was quiet, and my mind lazily drifted back over the day. My mind went back to an email I had received earlier in the day, outlining next week’s schedule for Courage Camp, a conference for Certified Daring Way Facilitators. I love delivering …
**This letter, one of our most popular blog posts of all times is now a chapter in a new book, Nice to a Fault, Redefining Kindness in Marriage…now available on kindle or in paperback. If it ain’t working for you, it ain’t working for anybody! Dear Wives-who-are-lonely, I wrote to your husbands recently in a …
Last night I was hurt by something that I thought my director had done. In the morning I wrote to her about this. She responded by saying that she hadn’t done that. I double checked and, sure enough, she was innocent. I felt like a jerk.[1] The irony is this: Even when I thought …
My recent back injury taught me about the pain and discomfort when one set of muscles under function and another set of muscles compensate to overfunction. Underfunctioners often don’t realize that they are underfunctioning…they just aren’t awake in their life. They don’t realize others are looking after the practical and emotional demands in the world …
I’m sorry. As Canadians we are notoriously known for being polite, with comedy sketches and internet pictures frequently mocking our excessive kindness and propensity towards apologies. We often read this as a favorable quality, this readiness to assume responsibility for a minor infraction or social inconvenience – but what does frequent apologizing really say about …