Platforms for voices

One of the cool things about being director and therapist at Conexus Counselling is I meet people I wouldn’t otherwise meet.  I do meet courage, remarkable people who have the strength to be vulnerable to deeply explore their stories with me–that’s true…but I’m talking about other opportunities. I know I learn so much from reading …

Surf lessons

I love the ocean. I love the sounds of the waves, and the vastness of the sea.  I love how small it makes me feel…the things I fuss about melt away when I am reminded of how big the world really is. I travelled to the ocean recently. The ability to travel to the ocean, …

Many Gifts

There were Christmases past when, for me, Christmas was considered the “finish line” of an obstacle race that included wrapping up a term at school with exams marked, seeing clients, running a business, responding to emails, getting Junior Tribe Members to all their Christmas events, power shopping, hopefully a tiny bit of baking, and the …

SLDIU: Husband’s Anniversary

Today is the longest night of the year.  The day with the least amount of sunlight. 25 years ago today, Husband married his first love.  With a wink and a smile, he liked to tell people that he loved getting married on the day with the longest night. Car would generally blush, and giggle a …

Lines my Husband Told Me

One of the things that happens when you spend a lot of time with someone you love and respect is you learn about how to love well. The people who love me teach me about how to better love. And Husband makes my life better in so many ways…I’ve learned so much from him, from …

3 strategies to get out of debt that aren’t about money

I blogged recently about the ways in which money/debt problems, at their root, aren’t really about money. It follows then, that the way to get out of money/debt problems isn’t about first worrying about the budgets, or debt consolidation, or developing a spreadsheet. Those things are important…but not the first line of resolution. So here …

A Letter to the American People

Hello American Neighbors… You are next door to the south of us.  We watch your televsion shows, we shop in your stores, we send you our fabulous musicians to enjoy, and some of our vast country’s resources. I’ve lived in the U.S. when I was studying and enjoyed the experience. Many of you have visited our beautiful …

September 29 is a day when Carolyn had, a decade apart, 2 important declarations.

September 29

Two years ago, I was driving home from the west coast in early September, rather bereft. I was a little scared and a lot lost. You see, I’d been a single mom for almost a decade.  I’d been single-mindedly focused on getting my Junior Tribe Members “all growed up”.  That meant working, driving, cooking, connecting with …