Nuts and Bolts of TDC

I sat down with Roshonna Plett the other day and asked her to talk through what it’s like to be at TDC (Transforming Destructive into Constructive) Anger Management at Bergen and Associates. Roshonna gives a few snapshots about people’s experiences at TDC and then also provides an outline of what the two evenings cover.   …

The Legacy of a Parent’s Love

Dick and Rick Hoyt have been racing for many years…so you likely have seen pictures of them in Sports Illustrated or on YouTube or any number of places.  The pair race in all manner of races…road races to triathlons.   This video inspired me this morning…in a world that can have cruelty, where people can …

The Dance of Attunement

This video had me mesmerized.  Watch it for the beauty, for the awesome dance of the thousands of birds coordinating in some sort of unspoken synchronicity of wings flapping.  Of silent communication, give and take, leading and following seamlessly.  Imagine the silent teamwork that is pulled off in the magic:   I’ve been thinking about …

A Man’s Desire

Too often, men don’t get to   be who they really are, say what they really feel have their outside match their inside express what they really think Men get shut down, shut out, cut off from the best parts of who they are when society, their community, maybe even their own family tells them …

Gruff Sweet Love

When I do premarital counselling, I will often ask the couple, “How do you know what you want your marriage to look like?  Have you seen what you want to have somewhere?  Do you have a couple you want to model yourselves after?” Often one or both of the couple will refer to their parents. …

Minding Dad

My history with Misericordia Health Centre is a long one…going back to before I was born.  My mother went to nursing school there. She graduated from the nursing school and went on to work decades at the Misericordia Hospital.  I remember going there once as a little girl when she went late at night for …

Living Well Together

Kelly Bernardin-Dvorak is a therapist who lives a life of working to ever deepen her understanding of her world and to have that matter–to have it impact the world in a way that changes it. She sees clients like most therapists do.  But she lives a lifestyle of deliberate community that engages with folks in …

I hate vulnerability too!

We all do. Therapists explore matters with clients all the time that, when discussed, are deeply exposing and revealing of deep parts of the client. Some clients come in…ready to let a stranger-therapist in on those deep, hidden parts, because as hard as it is to talk to a stranger, it is infinitely easier to …