Depression is a misunderstood condition. If you’ve been very sad, grieved hard, been “down in the dumps” or “felt blue” but not actually depressed, you might think you get it. And if you think you get it because you’ve been very sad for several days, you may be unintentionally dismissive of the experience of a …
Avoiding Goodness for Fear’s Sake
Even good things can feel scary. Good things can have us feel vulnerable. Vulnerability can feel scary…and so we avoid taking risks…even when the risk means a good thing. Like: applying for a desired program handing in the paper you worked hard on accepting the invitation to the party being the first to smile to …
Joy
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Nuts and Bolts of TDC
I sat down with Roshonna Plett the other day and asked her to talk through what it’s like to be at TDC (Transforming Destructive into Constructive) Anger Management at Bergen and Associates. Roshonna gives a few snapshots about people’s experiences at TDC and then also provides an outline of what the two evenings cover. …
The Legacy of a Parent’s Love
Dick and Rick Hoyt have been racing for many years…so you likely have seen pictures of them in Sports Illustrated or on YouTube or any number of places. The pair race in all manner of races…road races to triathlons. This video inspired me this morning…in a world that can have cruelty, where people can …
The Dance of Attunement
This video had me mesmerized. Watch it for the beauty, for the awesome dance of the thousands of birds coordinating in some sort of unspoken synchronicity of wings flapping. Of silent communication, give and take, leading and following seamlessly. Imagine the silent teamwork that is pulled off in the magic: I’ve been thinking about …
A Man’s Desire
Too often, men don’t get to be who they really are, say what they really feel have their outside match their inside express what they really think Men get shut down, shut out, cut off from the best parts of who they are when society, their community, maybe even their own family tells them …
Gruff Sweet Love
When I do premarital counselling, I will often ask the couple, “How do you know what you want your marriage to look like? Have you seen what you want to have somewhere? Do you have a couple you want to model yourselves after?” Often one or both of the couple will refer to their parents. …
Minding Dad
My history with Misericordia Health Centre is a long one…going back to before I was born. My mother went to nursing school there. She graduated from the nursing school and went on to work decades at the Misericordia Hospital. I remember going there once as a little girl when she went late at night for …
Living Well Together
Kelly Bernardin-Dvorak is a therapist who lives a life of working to ever deepen her understanding of her world and to have that matter–to have it impact the world in a way that changes it. She sees clients like most therapists do. But she lives a lifestyle of deliberate community that engages with folks in …