Hump Day Nudge: Mindfulness

Time is precious, isn’t it? Life is precious and I want to grab and squeeze the moments that surprise and delight me…I want to be mindful of the amount of time I spend watching other people live their lives on Facebook while I avoid living mine…I want to look for moments of beauty and humour …

Oprah Lifeclass with Brené Brown

Several weeks ago, I went to Oprah’s Lifeclass.  I felt like I was living “on the edge” to plan a trip to Chicago on short notice and be in the studio audience of a nationally televised show. Not my usual style to do something so impulsive, crazy…and wildly fun…but  I’m learning to tolerate higher levels …

Forgiveness is stronger than napalm

On June 8, 1972, Kim Phuc’s life blew up…literally.  Four bombs were dropped on her village and the little 9 year old girl found herself running out of the middle of a 1200 degree firestorm with burns from the napalm on much of her body. Her parents found her three days later in the local …

Hump Day Nudge: Playful attunement

I love being a witness to human connection…this intricate interplay that is a dance of people attuning to another. Without even trying, we pick up on signals from others all the time and respond to them…again without conscious effort. Things happen without explanation…the explanation isn’t needed, because the relationship just makes obvious what happens next. …

Emotional Eating-FAQ’s

I’ll be talking with Dahlia Kurtz about emotional eating tomorrow on CJOB in the afternoon.  A great topic…something that affects so very many of us.  I’m not sure we get a lot of folks coming to the counselling office saying, “Help me, I eat too much”…but we get a ton of folks that are struggling …

Creative parenting impacts powerfully

I’ve developed a fondness for discovering creative ways to implement non-violent resistance…non violent resistance being understood as strategies to resist things that aren’t right, but doing so in ways that don’t accuse or shame or manipulate or humiliate or harm another. Non violent resistance can be dangerous and requires courage.  I saw the movie, Lee …

Marriage Rules

  “Tell me what to do!!” I often get couples asking me what a healthy marriage looks like…what behaviors and strategies set them up for success. One of the questions I often ask couples is, “How do you know what you want your marriage to look like?”  Increasing numbers of couples don’t have an answer …