A complex PTSD trauma survivor proclaims: If I can wear a mask, so can you

Wear a mask

Very occasionally, I have a conversation with someone where I say, “What you just said is important. If you write about this, I’d publish it on our website.” Usually, that’s as far as it goes. I had a conversation recently with a survivor of complex trauma whose courage and conviction blew me away. And so …

You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behavior. Brené Brown

An open letter to Premier Pallister

Dear Premier Pallister, I looked online yesterday to see about an interview I did with Global News on Friday about the recent horrible assault on the liquor store employee in Tyndall Park. I stumbled upon an article that mentions the two of us. The article quoted you as saying: “Ultimately, it’s just got to be …

Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Letter to Dr. Blasey Ford It's terrible having to testify and heartbreaking what happened and the impact on her. My understanding is forever changed...one man's reaction to Dr. Blasey Ford's testimony

Changed: An open letter to Dr. Blasey Ford

Dear Dr. Blasey Ford, Today was a day unlike any other for you. A day you’d avoided for literally decades, and then, with the eyes of the world literally watching on live television, you re-lived the most traumatic moments of your life. I’m shaking a little, with tears in my eyes just imagining what that …

Arousal Nonconcordance–A term for us all to learn

Trigger warning: This blog will attempt to explain something that sexual assault survivors will find disturbing and upsetting.  The video goes into more explicit (but appropriate and incredibly helpful) detail. Those who have experienced sexual violence may find this blog is a trigger for them. Please take care of yourself and don’t read it if it will …