Change and Boredom

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My daughter turned two this summer. That’s right – I blinked and suddenly a toddler has entered my world. She’s a firecracker, who’s testing her limits as a typical “terrible two-year-old”, as we so affectionately say at this age! As I write this, I can hear her rumbling around in her room, determined that, today, …

An Oak Tree, Planted

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  Husband and our youngest Junior Tribe Member and I planted an oak tree yesterday. A wee baby oak.  I’m taller than she is, and I’m not tall. We picked her out at the nursery on Friday. On Saturday, I went to get the dirt while Husband and JTM dug the hole.  Twice as big …

Connection: Family Meal Times

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We are wired for connection. We do better when we spend time together with other people.  The first in a series… Family meals are challenging these days. In fall, sometimes seemingly impossible between music lessons, sports teams, parental work demands.  With each family member having a different but full schedule, figuring out how to get …

Storyfull gifts

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I have everything I need, and many things I would want. So…knowing my birthday was coming up, and knowing the Junior Tribe Members might ask me what I would want for my birthday, Husband and I cooked up a plan: I would ask for stories for my birthday. Several weeks ago, we gave each person …

“Fault?” Not relevant!

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I often hear someone refusing to come to counselling because they don’t have the problem: “If I’m not the rebellious one, why would I need counselling?” “He’s the one that drinks, not me.  He needs counselling, not me!” “My wife is the one that lost her parents in the accident. I don’t need help.” “The …

#1 of 10 Top Relationship Skills: Attunement

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Lindsey Walsh completes his series of Top 10 Relationship Skills with this blog.  The series has been a popular one. See the bottom to review the previous 9, if you’re interested in catching up on past entries in the series! “ [T]aking time to focus attention on the inner experience in the moment actually also makes us …

#9 The Reframe: Top 10 Healthy Relationship Skills

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People often ask therapists for “tools”. We want tools to have better relationships with ourselves and with others. Perhaps the most important “tool” is  the Re-frame. When we “re-frame” something we choose how we  are going to perceive it. Parents and loved ones have some really good re-frames for situations. Like, when a baby is …

Experiencing the Roots of Empathy

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Question: What does a relationship therapist do when she is on maternity leave? Answer: She takes her baby to volunteer at an elementary school to help youngsters learn about empathy and emotions! Over the last 10 months I have been taking my daughter to visit a grade 4-5 split classroom in the Seine River School Division as …

Picture of her son and his love saying, "He is my son but I am not his mother"

Dear Car: Your Groom-Son

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Dear Car, This week, your son gets married. While you have become much more a part of my life since I married your Husband, never more have you been in my/our thoughts than in the last several weeks.  You are missed always, and these days especially. A week or so ago, your son and his …