June 18th

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Dear Little Ones, Yesterday, it was exactly a quarter century since I last heard your heart beats. It is exactly 25 years ago today that my world fell in and blew apart; simultaneously imploding and exploding. No heart beats one morning. Later that day, when I held you, you were both impossibly perfect, even in …

Thank you to Humboldt. For showing up in your grief. You taught us much. ON poster of man curled up in grief with Broncos logo in the bottom corner

To the people of Humboldt

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Dear folks of Humboldt, As a therapist, I’m a person who has the tender, holy privilege and responsibility of sitting with people in the darkest circumstances of their lives. I want to acknowledge the gift you have been to all of us Canadians–even the world. Your community has let us in on your grief and pain after …

The special plate: One more way to love your kid. And who doesn't want one more way to show your love?

The special plate

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I loved, during the Olympics, watching athletes read letters of love from their parents. Isn’t it beautiful to watch how people are moved by reading how much their parents love them and admire their grit and perseverance? Children weep when witnessing the love and pride of a parent: “Dear Kaitlyn and Andrew…”@WeaverPoje get a letter …

Change and Boredom

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My daughter turned two this summer. That’s right – I blinked and suddenly a toddler has entered my world. She’s a firecracker, who’s testing her limits as a typical “terrible two-year-old”, as we so affectionately say at this age! As I write this, I can hear her rumbling around in her room, determined that, today, …

An Oak Tree, Planted

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  Husband and our youngest Junior Tribe Member and I planted an oak tree yesterday. A wee baby oak.  I’m taller than she is, and I’m not tall. We picked her out at the nursery on Friday. On Saturday, I went to get the dirt while Husband and JTM dug the hole.  Twice as big …

Connection: Family Meal Times

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We are wired for connection. We do better when we spend time together with other people.  The first in a series… Family meals are challenging these days. In fall, sometimes seemingly impossible between music lessons, sports teams, parental work demands.  With each family member having a different but full schedule, figuring out how to get …

Storyfull gifts

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I have everything I need, and many things I would want. So…knowing my birthday was coming up, and knowing the Junior Tribe Members might ask me what I would want for my birthday, Husband and I cooked up a plan: I would ask for stories for my birthday. Several weeks ago, we gave each person …

“Fault?” Not relevant!

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I often hear someone refusing to come to counselling because they don’t have the problem: “If I’m not the rebellious one, why would I need counselling?” “He’s the one that drinks, not me.  He needs counselling, not me!” “My wife is the one that lost her parents in the accident. I don’t need help.” “The …

#1 of 10 Top Relationship Skills: Attunement

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Lindsey Walsh completes his series of Top 10 Relationship Skills with this blog.  The series has been a popular one. See the bottom to review the previous 9, if you’re interested in catching up on past entries in the series! “ [T]aking time to focus attention on the inner experience in the moment actually also makes us …