Little Things Create Big Feelings

“What is it about little things that make for big feelings?” This question was asked by Stuart McLean on Vinyl Cafe during the annual “Arthur Awards” broadcast, where ordinary people do something kind and generous for someone…and it has a huge impact on people. For example, one person finds a suitcase by the side of …

Mixing Oil and Water Successfully

Sometimes you have to figure out a way to get along. Wynonna and Naomi Judd were on Oprah last week. They are taking another tour together…something they haven’t done in years. They stopped touring a long time ago…partly because of health issues, and partly because they couldn’t stand each other. They referred frequently to their …

Is it OK to argue?

Didja ever meet a couple who never fought and then their relationship ended and everyone is surprised because they never argued? I’ve met some of those couples before they actually separate, but after they recognize that things aren’t working and they better do something to avoid divorce court. They get a little bug-eyed when they …

The Hard but Worthwhile Road of Infidelity Recovery

“Can I ever get past this? Can we ever get past this? Can I ever trust again? Do I want to try?” These are questions I’ve heard painfully asked often as couples deal with the raw emotional pain of infidelity. There was a powerful letter from Brenda Mohan in the Winnipeg Free Press paper today. …

Quick Couple Evaluation

Here is a very quick video from the highly respected Dr. John Gottman, a researcher who’s done a fantastic job of measuring relationship success. One of the most significant results of his research is his ability, with 95% accuracy to be able to suggest the likelihood of a couple’s long term relationship success. He’s for …

Marriage Maintenance and Enhancement

To say I’m a little bit passionate about helping couples find ways of staying married in a vital, life-giving way is like saying the pope is a little bit Catholic. Although of course there are times when it makes sense to end a marriage, no one sets out to have their marriage fail. And yet …

Getting the Walls and Windows Right

“What God has joined together, let no one come between” …with those words a good friend of mine completed the formal part of the vows for a couple dear to me. Those words were spoken at Pineridge Hollow near Winnipeg. The weather was perfect,with the sun shining brightly and yet it was comfortable.The grass was …

Committed: Asking for too much?

Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage, is a book I’ve recently devoured. Written by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the runaway bestseller, Eat, Pray, Love, it looks at her struggle to figure out how to reconcile her relationship to the institution of marriage (something she had sworn she would never again enter into, but the …

Active Listening

I was at a conference, Stay Ahead of the Electronic Curve, yesterday that looked at how business can use the internet more effectively. It was a really helpful day for me to learn how to help potential customers get to know us and how we can better serve the public. As someone who runs a …

Being Embraced in Life

Family is a pain, huh? Those kids want a snack…and you’ve barely cleaned up lunch. You’ve paid for the kids’ sports, the mortgage, groceries, and the bank account is begging for mercy–and then someone needs fancy duds for an upcoming banquet that MUST be attended and there is NOTHING to wear. You’re dog tired, worked hard all day, and the …