On a therapist's fourth wedding anniversary: Oh to be loved with a love like this.

To be loved with a love like this…

I am sooo not a morning person. Husband is. He is ever bright and cheerful (and ridiculously chatty) first thing early in the morning. Often, in the morning when I don’t have it together to make something for lunch, Husband puts a cup of  Cheerios in a little bag for me to get me through …

On the anniversary: A letter to myself on my wedding day all those years ago. It's not gonna work out, but you will be okay.

To my younger to-be-divorced-one-day-self on your wedding day

Dear Carolyn-bride, You didn’t know me all those years ago at 22—but you would have known I would be coming one day. I’ve been thinking a lot about you. This is a momentous anniversary of something now gone, and so I’ve been thinking about you more than usual in the last couple of days. Today …

Nice to a fault: How understanding the difference between kind and nice could save your marriage

Nice to a fault

One of our guilty pleasures as a family is the television show, Survivor. It’s still early in this latest season. We got caught up on the weekend…the first person voted off the island on Survivor Edge of Extinction was Reem, a middle aged woman. Reem lasted just 3 days on the island with her team. …

NOT Always in the Mood

Tuesday night was a night I was looking forward to for a loooooong time. I went to McNally Robinson Booksellers to watch one of my favourite people to present her work to the Winnipeg world. Sarah Hunter Murray was a therapist at Conexus Counselling for several years. Her specialty was always human sexuality, but mostly …

You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Dr. Suess

A dream come true

This past week was a dream of a lifetime come true. All my life, I have wondered what it would be like to have a week all to myself at an all inclusive resort. Able to eat when I want, sleep when I want, read a lot. All on my own schedule. The dream, in …

Her 50th birthday would have been today. :(

50

Dear Car, If things had been different, …the couch I sit at in this moment would have streamers and balloons above it. I suspect your mom would have had you over for the day to occupy you, while your husband decorated and fussed, while your friends came over to put up decorations and loaded food …

You were the reason, George H.W. Bush said when his wife said there must have been a reason his life was saved in WW2.

“You were the reason”-George H.W. Bush

Jon Meacham’s gave a humorous and moving eulogy at Barbara Bush’s funeral in spring of 2018. I find the relationship between George H.W. and Barbara Bush profoundly moving in it’s gentle tenderness. George H.W. Bush was strong and brave. He was also tender and loving. And George H.W. Bush was brave to let his tender …

Take the emotional labor quiz

Take the Emotional Labor Quiz

If you find value this blog, you may want to read the book I wrote that includes this idea in it: Husband spent last week in Texas, along with a team of other volunteers, rebuilding a house that was destroyed in last year’s Hurricane Harvey. He has a seasonal business, and that frees him up …

Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …