Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Does your spouse annoy you?

  Hal talks with people and he has his finger on the pulse of what people are saying. .And, as he said on today’s show, he doesn’t much care what other people think. That frees Hal to name topics that other people wonder about but don’t say out loud… Today, we spoke about how to …

Snickers is Huband's favorte...and I didn't know. It reminded me about being deligent about the love map I have for Husband. Snickers bar on wood background

Snickers and Love Maps

Husband and I have been married for over 3 years. I thought I knew Husband. I found out this weekend, I’ve still got a few things to learn. Our Junior Tribe Member got married to his sweetheart on Saturday in BC.  It was a warm, sunny day and they professed their love in front of family and friends overlooking the …

Three years of marriage...leather. Celebrating the third anniversary of marriage with Husband

Third Anniversary–Leather

It has been three years since Husband and I stood before family and friends to commit our lives to each other…our third anniversary.  Maybe now we are an old married couple? 😉 Pastor John was one of the officiants at our ceremony. He means a lot to both of us, as he has had significant …

3 years since Husband proposed on Conexus blog. The story.

February 15

I have a theory about Valentine’s Day: Valentine’s Day is a crushingly discouraging day for those in the midst of heartbreak. A reminder of al that was lost. It is salt in the wound for those that are single, irritating the soul that seemingly everyone, save you, has someone to share romantic cards and dinner …

New Book: My Marriage is Almost Dead…

I heard a story about some acquaintances  a few days ago…the couple had been married for several years.  The wife was unhappy, but she hated confrontation.  She didn’t want to say anything that would hurt her husband. She didn’t want to be the source that created long and difficult conversations. So she said nothing. The situation …

Hypothesis of generosity

I want you to think of the last time somebody was angry at you. What were they angry about? Did you actually intend to hurt them? If so, why was it important to hurt them? If not, what did they not understand about you? Maybe you were late for lunch with a friend, but there …

Walking me home

Three years ago, on the September long weekend, I left my Junior Tribe Member at the West Coast. I’ve written before about how I had dreaded the beginning of university for my youngest JTM. It might be irrational, but I felt that after a decade of being a single mom, I was feeling like I was …

Controlled Separation: A Marriage Coma

Sometimes, a marriage is in such bad shape, it needs a coma. A Controlled Separation is to a couple, what a Medically Induced Coma is to a severely injured patient. Let me explain: Scientific American wrote an article about Medically Induced Coma.  A medically induced coma is a state of unconsciousness created by highly trained physicians …