R E S P E C T

Aretha Franklin spelled these letters in a song that most of us can hear in our heads just as we spell the letters ourselves. While these words are often associated with deference given to authority, or something you have to provide to those who are older, wiser, stronger, or more intimidating, I think of respect …

Brokenness, not Selfishness

This post might not make sense unless you read yesterday’s post. In it, I talked about how a person can see that they are “giving” to people in a self destructive way and don’t understand it. I suggested that underneath that there is another level in which the giving behavior really serves a purpose to …

Look Deeper for Understanding

I work with a lot of wonderful people-people I admire and learn from. People who teach me about themselves and about life, and as I tell them about what they have taught me, they also learn. Often people come to me asking with curiosity-actually, by the time they are talking to me about it, is …

Another Shack nugget

One more quote from The Shack, about a man and his wife: “He says she saved his life and paid a high price to do it. For some reason, beyond understanding, she seems to love him now more than ever, even though I get the sense that he hurt her something fierce in the early …

TeamWork

I watched a video this morning during a workshop I was attending that was about leadership and group/team development…the video followed a pair of runners during the race. One of the fellows was clearly blind. The other was sighted. Both were clearly trained and seasoned runners. They ran a race…not a road race, but a …

Grace is Hard Work

“We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness.”   Ellen Goodman   I saw a couple lately, deeply in love, new again in love, after decades …

Easy Does It

During the recent cold snap, my garage door started acting up. It responded with even less consistency than usual. To get in, we punch in a 4 digit code to get the door to automatically open. When it is cold, it often takes two or three tries. When it is really really cold (as it …

Naming the Elephants

Funny how a person can be thinking of an idea, and then several cool things happen very soon after that enrich and expand the thinking, y’know? I was visiting with some friends lately…and some pretty huge stuff has happened in both of our lives-the same tragic events-we were both devastated by the same experiences. I’m …

More on Double Binds

Ever notice that your style of thinking changes in the shower? I dunno, maybe more meandering kinds of thoughts that allow for ideas to be generated that wouldn’t happen else where? Happened to me yesterday. I was thinking about yesterday’s post on double binds when I suddenly was drawn back to spring days where puddles …