More on Double Binds

Ever notice that your style of thinking changes in the shower? I dunno, maybe more meandering kinds of thoughts that allow for ideas to be generated that wouldn’t happen else where? Happened to me yesterday. I was thinking about yesterday’s post on double binds when I suddenly was drawn back to spring days where puddles …

Double Binds

D’ya ever notice how, in the Canadian political system, the “loyal opposition” is loyally opposed to everything? I realize it is their job to challenge what the party in power is doing and keep them on their toes…but this morning on the way to work, I listened to an interview about how the government is …

The connection

“The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” Victor Hugo One of the greatest privileges of working with couples who are in various stages of marital crisis, is the chance to work with them to create an environment where a person …

Celebrating–a time to recapture hope

Gotta hand it to those Americans…they sure know how to throw a party during the Inauguration. I watched some of the highlights on the news and on you-tube–the closing song on Sunday’s concert led by Beyonce choked me up a little and I’m not even American. But what teared me up was that if I …

A Gentle Kindness

I was picking up some supper today at The Greek Market on Corydon. Once I had my yummy lemon potatoes, veggies and phyllo wrapped delights, he asked me, “Is that all?” I looked around and decided to throw in a couple of freshly baked crispy-on-the-outside-but-soft-on-the-inside rolls, explaining that I was going to see a friend …

The other side

Warning: spoiler about Gran Torino movie…don’t read it you’re going to see the movie. I have still been thinking about my last post about the dichotomy between our conscious belief about equality of humanity and actions which suggest an unconscious racism…talking with a friend who is about to enter into a transracial adoption and discussing …

Confronting a harsh reality

There is the way we want to be, the person we portray to others, and that is often the person we believe ourselves to be. We can fool ourselves into believing that is who we really are. I see clients who tell me that they are a certain way–they tell me this with conviction–they believe …

The Pain of Divorce

Morning radio typically does not make me weep. However, I found myself wiping my eyes as I was driving to work the other day. The show was previewing and discussing the documentary, “How to divorce and not wreck the kids”. The show is looking at effective ways couples can work to separate in a way …

New Year Lows…and Highs

I was out running the other day when I met a friend who is a minister in a local church. I asked him how his Christmas was, and he said that while he had enjoyed it, it had been stressful as well because of the number of parishioners had been struggling over the holidays. Others …

Whew–family gatherings are over

While many people enjoy the relaxed pace over Christmas, with the chance to go sledding, watch movies, play games, sleep, and generally take a break from the race of the weekly grind, others did not find it as pleasant. Why? Well, for the same reasons why some long distance truck drivers choose to do long …