Self Compassion: Being loving to your suffering

I’ve had self-compassion on my mind lately.  I gave a workshop to a group of foster parents on the topic last week, and have had a couple of profound conversations with colleagues about being compassionate towards ourselves. Self compassion:   gives staying power to those in helping professions.  It takes a lot of energy to …

Visiting my husband’s wife’s grave

It wasn’t an easy decision for our experience of love after heartbreaking loss being on the national stage in the Globe and Mail. We thought long and hard about sharing this story. The back story of our decision, the picture featured in the article, and another perspective of the same shot, from an entirely different angle: Composting Heartbreak …

Joy and Sadness: Thoughts on the Inside Out Movie

Therapists love Inside Out, the movie that gives a window into folks’ emotions.  It may be a cartoon, but there’s some well respected neuroscience in it, and the movie gives voice to the way we often talk to clients about different parts of themselves.  So…we will be hearing from a couple of therapists and their …

Mindfulness

Join me in a little experiment? Get comfortable.  Shake out your arms and legs.  Take a couple of deep breaths. Check to see if your shoulders are relaxed. Breath in and out again slowly. And spend a long minute simply noticing this picture, and also notice what you notice about this picture: What did you …

Hump Day Nudge: Hugs

Hugs save lives…literally… And hugs are good for us: lower depression and anxiety increase immunity decrease blood pressure reduced pain improve quality of marriage and other relationships reduce the effects of stress Hugs take courage. Hugs are best given with permission. Hugs make the world a better place.  Hugs create connection…and we are created for …

Depression vs Vitality

I’ve been pondering Andrew Solomon’s exquisite reflections on his own experience with depression.  As a writer, he captures the pain and anxiety of depression remarkably. He wraps depression with words to enable those who have depression to feel understood and validated and affirmed.  No, you are not crazy, you are not alone, and you definitely …