I’ve been reading The Power of Why by Amanda Lang lately…an interesting, creative book laced with interesting stories that encourage curiosity, risk taking, adventure and even mistakes as ways of developing the human spirit and furthering human development. One of the stories this book follows is Canadian Tire’s year long exploration to find out why …
Women burning clean anger
It breaks my heart when women are so nice that they don’t tell their partners or their friends or their kids when they are mad. It frustrates me when women: suppress what they want to have happen pretend it didn’t really hurt all that much or stop themselves from expressing a different opinion on the …
Hump Day Nudge…Say Yes!
Last May, I saw this video and blogged about it…LOVED the joy, the silliness, the hope, the giggles it stirred inside…it was a tribute to life! Isaac and Amy released a new video that honours family…their heritage, their courage, and the leap that their grandparents and parents took to embrace love and life and the …
Do we let men be real?
What happens when a guy gets tired? What happens when a guy loses someone important to him? What happens when a guy gets betrayed, disappointed, loses out, gets shafted, is ambushed, has one thing after another not go his way? He experiences life as hard, that’s what. And while we might let him cuss, yell, …
Gruff Sweet Love
When I do premarital counselling, I will often ask the couple, “How do you know what you want your marriage to look like? Have you seen what you want to have somewhere? Do you have a couple you want to model yourselves after?” Often one or both of the couple will refer to their parents. …
A different face of empathy
I’m thinking many of you will find this answers a question or two that’s been been asked often in your relationship. Spend 90 seconds of your day here, and see if this doesn’t have a small part of you go, “Oh, so that’s why….”
Love
Spent some time with parents of young children yesterday…discussing with them how hard it is in today’s culture to maintain a quality relationship with one’s spouse. Two-thirds of marriages take a nose dive in quality once the children come along. It’s hard to “be enough” as a mom…to protect our children, to stimulate them, to …
Is it a problem? The fireworks are gone!
In the last of the series of 5 surprising but important life lessons that psychological research, Psychology Today looks at the value of mature deepening love. Couples can be alarmed, or wonder if they should “throw in the towel” when the hot and heavy blush of the relationship is gone. When couples go from “can’t keep …
Hope Springs…A Therapist’s Take
I got the chance to see Hope Springs today…first chance I had to see it. This was a movie I could hardly wait to see…the movie is about a couple engaging in intense couple counselling. How would my field, my chosen practice that I’m so passionate about, and that I take so seriously…how would Hollywood …
John Gottman on Anderson Cooper
John Gottman was recently on Anderson Cooper’s show and there was some great stuff talked about that highlighted some of the practical applications of his scientific research Gottman is a well respected couple’s relationship researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will get divorced by looking, over the course of about 3 …