“The drummer boy” has been my favourite Christmas song every since I was a little girl. I grew up with the “Bony M” version, but the Pentatonix is my current fave version (and the new favourite of millions of others, I think, too, judging by the over 19 million views in three weeks or so) …
FAQ’s about yelling at your adolescent
Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh published a study this fall that looked at the relationship between teens being yelled at and their behaviour. The results were inconvenient, to say the least, to parents who use yelling as a form of steering their teenager into appropriate behaviour. To put it quite simply, the study found …
The Woman Cold
So…last post about the man cold…and this one about the woman cold. And now is when the woman say: What woman cold? There is no such thing as a woman cold. I don’t have time to be sick”. Yes. exactly. That would be the exact context of the woman cold. You see, women struggle with …
The Man Cold
You’ve seen this, or a version of it, while watching a commercial for cough syrup or cold symptoms, right? Some research suggests that women are biologically more sensitive to pain and therefore more likely to struggle during illness. Other research suggests that men have different temperature receptors in their brain and feel “rougher” during the …
The dark side of integrity–terror! :)
As a therapist, I have a front row seat every day to displays of raw courage. There ain’t nothing like it…I see people take enormous risks and say things out loud that they’ve never even dared form into an official thought inside their head. It’s awesome…truly. A gift that clients give me daily is to …
The Daring Way ™
I can remember the moment, fundamentally, my perspective changed. Years, ago, I began dancing with a limp…I birthed the most beautiful, perfect little boys you could imagine…they were born silently. No screaming or crying. Ever. I was heartbroken. Heck, I was just plain broken. Period. My dream of having children, a life long passionate dream, …
Best tip: Reconnect when you notice disconnection
Find ways to reconnect emotionally when you notice a disconnection. Sounds obvious, huh? Well, it is, right now, because you’re not steamed, not feeling resentful, guilty, angry, or frustrated. And so you aren’t defensive, belligerent, argumentative, fearful, attacking or withdrawing. Relationships seem so obvious and easy when you’re calm and reading blogs, aren’t they? Not …
Terrified courage
Folks that run into a burning building to rescue a child are regarded as brave heroes. And we often think of brave heroes as folks who fearlessly do very dangerous things. I’m thinking that anybody that enters a burning building without fear isn’t brave…I would think that’s more like a special kind of stupid. That’s …
Oprah Lifeclass with Brené Brown
Several weeks ago, I went to Oprah’s Lifeclass. I felt like I was living “on the edge” to plan a trip to Chicago on short notice and be in the studio audience of a nationally televised show. Not my usual style to do something so impulsive, crazy…and wildly fun…but I’m learning to tolerate higher levels …
Emotional Eating-FAQ’s
I’ll be talking with Dahlia Kurtz about emotional eating tomorrow on CJOB in the afternoon. A great topic…something that affects so very many of us. I’m not sure we get a lot of folks coming to the counselling office saying, “Help me, I eat too much”…but we get a ton of folks that are struggling …