Dear Husband, Remember on the front porch a few weeks ago, the sun was streaming in, and we had fresh, steaming mugs in front of us? Remember how, as part of the morning’s conversation, you took the time to carefully and thoughtfully tell me about how I make your life better? It would have followed for …
#7 Dance Me to the End of Love: Top 10 Healthy Relationship Skills
Show me slowly what I only know the limits of, Dance me to the end of love -Leonard Cohen, from Dance Me to the End of Love That, up there, is my favourite lyric in all of music. It’s got rhythm like an ocean, the wisdom of a rabbi, and the soul of a lover. …
Top 10 Skills of Healthy Relationships: #10 Be the change
Check in weekly for Lindsey’s top 10 list…we will intersperse this series with other thoughts from therapists…tune in next week for #9. I’ve made a list of Ten Foundations of Meaningful Relationships I’ll be sharing these here over the next 10 weeks. If you want something (or someone) to change, begin by being that change …
Faithful…
Another of our therapists, Gail Shaver, is new to the blog today. Gail works a lot with couples. And a lot of couples come to us in crisis situations because of infidelity. Gail witnesses the anguish and anxiety results from an affair…and helps couples deal with the resultant carnage. Believe me, when you have seen …
Sexual Frequency…Are we ‘normal’?
When people find out I have an educational background in sexuality it’s only a matter of time until I get asked a question that in some way boils down to “….am I normal?” And while there are tonnes of different questions that I have been asked over time, the one question I get over and …
Misconceptions: Men and Sex
Another of our colleagues has entered the blogosphere. Sarah Hunter Murray has been on our therapy staff for several years…during her first year with us, she was doing research and writing a thesis looking at the male perspective of sex. She is passionate about helping people explore and understand sexuality…and in her gentle way, encourages …
A letter to my Groom-Son
Dear Son, Your mom is a marriage therapist…and so, not surprisingly, I have a few things to say. How could I miss the chance? Let me share some pearls of wisdom that come out of years of watching and working with dewy eyed engaged couples preparing for marriage, and bleary eyed couples exhausted from the endless …
Won’t Give Up
I’m taking dancing lessons with Husband. For the wedding. Correction…for the weddingS! We have two Junior Tribe Members getting married within a month this summer. Cah-RAY-Zee! Seriously…shouldn’t you feel like a grown up all the way before you have JTM’s getting married? I’m not there yet. Anyways…I grew up in a culture with a rich …
Looking back…the first year
Husband and I have been married a year. A year of being Husband and Wife. A year of being two families who are also one family. Lessons learned: 1. Single people can work late, and pick up sushi on the way home, much easier than married people who have a houseful of people. Marriage definitely …
April 11
April 11th, 2005 was a Monday. After months of awkward silence, where I was desperate to understand what was happening under my roof, and hearing almost nothing, he asked me to have a conversation with him that evening. It’s odd when your family looks the same, but the foundation has been rocked, is likely crumbling, …