sitellite/util/snippets (code=fae023ace7d9033f688a99ee4c38f0c5) To those who raise us up so we can stand on mountains: The mom who wears the handmade beaded jewelry from Mother’s Day all year long The teacher who tells the kid in the back of the room who has long ago learned that she “doesn’t have the stuff” that he thinks the …
Beginnings and Boundaries
I can almost smell the fresh wood shavings (off of newly sharpened Laurentian pencial crayons) this time of year as school starts as I remember the years of loving those brand new tall pencil crayons waiting for projects to color. The smell of fresh plastic with the carboflourocarbons (or whatever they are called) wafting …
Expectations after Failure
The implications of “knowing” what to expect after a mistake ripple. All this blogging about mistakes reminded me of an incident that occured some time ago. I realize that most of life isn’t this obvious, and that the back and forth of relationships produce much more subtle exchanges, but it will allow me to illustrate …
In Celebration of Errors
Adversity, setbacks, and even trauma may actually be necessary for people to be successful and fulfilled. Psychology Today June 2009 p. 67 I had a rare quiet lunch at home today and enjoyed some leisurely reading…and I found myself drawn to finish an article in Psychology Today that I had started months ago but …
When Mistakes Strengthen
The handling a mistake is often more remembered than the mistake itself. It was a beautiful day yesterday morning…and my first class of the year at University. I’ve taught this class before, but it was still hard to “get into it” when finally the weather seemed summery. I rode my bike to school to enjoy …
Candid Honesty-A Gift
No one likes being challenged–but not being challenged can be incredibly dangerous. Research is showing that the trend towards celebrity status CEO’s of companies can potentially lead to their downfall. As a CEO become a celebrity and an increasingly powerful head of the organization, the realtionship with the Human Resources department changes–the amount of discretion …
Hungering for Beauty
I forgot how much beauty restores the soul. I’ve just returned from spending several days with friends on the West Coast. I feel like my heart has been defibrillated by the sights, sounds and smells of beauty that is on the coast and has woken up restored and refreshed. I have energy and enthusiasm for …
Change
If change did not exist, a flower would be just a seed hidden in the ground. This on a beautiful card I received this week, encapsulating better than I ever could about what Bergen and Associates Counseling is all about. Our logo has a seed planted in dirt, recognizing that it is at …
When Hanging On is Impossible…but Happens
The bottom tree in this photo are growing out of the side of a cliff. This is a close up of the bottom of those trees: I realize I’m not an excellent photographer, so it may be difficult to see that the bottom of the trees literally curve into the side of the cliff…there is …
Loving expansively
It is interesting to me that we are so captivated by what is essentially a capitalistic discourse of grieving. Listen to the terms we use. We should finish unfinished business. We need to seek closure. We ought to withdraw emotional energy from the one who has died in order to invest it into other relationships. …