I went to court the other day. In life, sometimes, our friends could use our help moving from one house to another, or with a meal when someone dies. That’s what we do, right? And when their child is facing charges, you go to court to sit with them. No one should have to be …
Beautiful Golden Scars
Today is the day I go to the cemetery to sing a lullaby to my sons. I write every year to honour their memory. These little ones who I anticipated with such longing and joy. These little ones whose death shattered me when they died. This comes after a birthday party where Husband and a few …
Returning me to myself
It was my birthday last week. And Husband knows me: I like to anticipate goodness more than by surprised by it I prefer much smaller groups over large crowds He hosted a birthday gathering for me with some of my favourite people. They told me that I positively beamed while they sang Happy Birthday to …
To be loved with a love like this…
I am sooo not a morning person. Husband is. He is ever bright and cheerful (and ridiculously chatty) first thing early in the morning. Often, in the morning when I don’t have it together to make something for lunch, Husband puts a cup of Cheerios in a little bag for me to get me through …
Cynicism and Bermax
We’ve all heard: Fool me once, shame on you Fool me twice, shame on me It’s vulnerable to feel compassion and care towards people who you find out later apparently were the ones who did the damage themselves. When there are mixed stories, and we don’t know who to believe, it gets even more confusing. …
Pivot Point: Courage to hope
Today, I was driving on a road trip, shlepping athletes home from a tournament on the open highway. While driving, I listened on the radio to the memorial service taking place in Humboldt to honor those in the Broncos hockey team bus crash. I was struck by the permission that the mothers of two …
To my younger to-be-divorced-one-day-self on your wedding day
Dear Carolyn-bride, You didn’t know me all those years ago at 22—but you would have known I would be coming one day. I’ve been thinking a lot about you. This is a momentous anniversary of something now gone, and so I’ve been thinking about you more than usual in the last couple of days. Today …
To the coach
Dear Coach, It wasn’t easy to support my son’s decision to travel across the country to play on your team. Now, 5 years later, with 20/20 hindsight, it was a brilliant decision. And not because the team won the National Championship…but because of the five years which led up to this championship. You see, when …
Valuable Perspective
I was on a flight the other day and had a chance to take in the movie, “First Man”. In response to the question, “Why is space flight important”, Neil Armstrong replied: I had a few opportunities in the X-15 to observe the atmosphere. It was so thin, such a small part of the Earth, …
Nice to a fault
One of our guilty pleasures as a family is the television show, Survivor. It’s still early in this latest season. We got caught up on the weekend…the first person voted off the island on Survivor Edge of Extinction was Reem, a middle aged woman. Reem lasted just 3 days on the island with her team. …