I’ve been in the listening-to-people’s-hearts business for years…and I love it. Everyone is different and has unique perspectives and challenges…but underlying so many conversations I have with people is the question, “Who will love me for me?” Who will love me for me? Not for what I have done or for what I will …
Guiness Record Won–Passionate Compassion Update
Arvid smashed the Guiness record for crossing mainland Canada by bicycle by almost 3 hours. HE DID IT!! It wasn’t easy for Uncle Arvid…a brutal schedule averaging only 2 hours of sleep per night, and pumping those legs non stop for hours at a time is hard on a body. On Day 9, he …
The Power of Bullies
You, with your words like knives and swords and weapons that you use You have knocked me off my feet again, got me feeling like I’m nothing You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard, calling me out when I’m wounded You, pickin’ on the weaker man… Someday I’ll be big enough so you …
Can you say this…
…to your life partner, your business partner, your child, your BFF…and mean it? I want to: love you without clutching appreciate you without judging join you without invading invite you without demanding leave you without guilt criticize you without blaming and help you without insulting If I can have the same from you then we …
Passionate Compassion
Arvid Loewen is one crazy uncle with a grandpa’s heart big enough for 2000 kids. Most of us have an uncle that we might refer to as, ahem, odd or quirky…maybe he has ear hairs inches long, or he wears the ugliest sweaters to family gatherings, or he brings smelly picked fish as his offering …
Stayin Together 101 Part 4
The real cradle that holds the baby is the emotional climate between new parents. Many significant social problems [like violence] in our society can be traced back to this negative emotional climate in families. John Gottman I often tell couples who are struggling with the needs of a child who that are …
Stayin Together 101 Part 3
“The Master’s [of marriage] are repairing things effectively…they have crummy arguments, and they don’t follow communication rules, and they get defensive, and upset…but at some point…they can have a conversation where they can talk about it…repair…How can you make it better?… We could not predict the effectiveness of the repair from the nature of the …
In da Press: Rain Rage? ;)
Doug Speirs called me on Friday in light of the weekend’s bleak forecast, asking for anger management tips to help control “rain rage”…the anger that Winnipegger’s may have towards all the lousy weather we’ve been having. The tongue-in-cheek article was fun to talk about with him. Doug may write humour, but he has a warm …
Stayin Together 101 Part 2
Contempt is the sulfuric acid of love John Gottman I love the humorous sarcasm in this video…John gives words to an imaginary conversation that folks can have about the effectiveness of our contemptuous approach to others…it sounds so reasonable and realistic in a person’s head, and so utterly ridiculously funny when he gives it …
Staying Together 101
It’s a myth that if you solve all of your problems you’ll automatically be happy. We need to teach couples they will never solve most of their problems John Gottman John Gottman is a researcher/teacher/therapist that knows his stuff. He has researched many couples over many circumstances over many years. When he says something about …