The real cradle that holds the baby is the emotional climate between new parents. Many significant social problems [like violence] in our society can be traced back to this negative emotional climate in families. John Gottman I often tell couples who are struggling with the needs of a child who that are …
Stayin Together 101 Part 3
“The Master’s [of marriage] are repairing things effectively…they have crummy arguments, and they don’t follow communication rules, and they get defensive, and upset…but at some point…they can have a conversation where they can talk about it…repair…How can you make it better?… We could not predict the effectiveness of the repair from the nature of the …
In da Press: Rain Rage? ;)
Doug Speirs called me on Friday in light of the weekend’s bleak forecast, asking for anger management tips to help control “rain rage”…the anger that Winnipegger’s may have towards all the lousy weather we’ve been having. The tongue-in-cheek article was fun to talk about with him. Doug may write humour, but he has a warm …
Stayin Together 101 Part 2
Contempt is the sulfuric acid of love John Gottman I love the humorous sarcasm in this video…John gives words to an imaginary conversation that folks can have about the effectiveness of our contemptuous approach to others…it sounds so reasonable and realistic in a person’s head, and so utterly ridiculously funny when he gives it …
Staying Together 101
It’s a myth that if you solve all of your problems you’ll automatically be happy. We need to teach couples they will never solve most of their problems John Gottman John Gottman is a researcher/teacher/therapist that knows his stuff. He has researched many couples over many circumstances over many years. When he says something about …
Healing
I can see me pulling through, find out I’m someone who Is moving on and letting go, picking up the pieces on the road to healing Wynonna Judd Found this song yesterday by accident…nice to stumble upon it, given that today is an annual day of mourning for me…as I remember and pray and …
Simple Things
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Link with Love
LinkwithLove is a new online intiative that I’m lovin’. Kal Barteski is a local artist with energy to burn. Not only is she the mother of three preschool girls who seem to be up a lot at night when the rest of us are sleeping, she is an artist with unique spirit, promoting people to …
TDC Anger Management
We have been offering sessions on anger at Bergen and Associates Counselling for several years now…in both our group format of 6-7 hours, and the individual session that total 4 hours. Our course, Transforming Destructive into Constructive, has now been well received by hundreds of people. Our thinking about anger parallels this quote: Do …
A Thought
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find it is those who, instead of advice, solutions or cures have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a …