“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, …
Welcome!
“The strength is our people” is a well used line…but at Bergen and Associates it’s not just something we say, but something we have the privilege of experiencing. I get to go to work everyday, knowing I work with fantastic people: They are fun, we love to laugh together. They are supportive…to me and of …
Growth Underneath the Crap
I generally dislike spring clean up…ok…that’s more polite that I really feel about it… I hate spring clean up. I hate it almost worse than fall clean up…mainly because I put it off so long last fall, that it didn’t get done properly, and so there were more leaves and stuff left behind than should. …
Powerful Medicine
Would you be interested in an intervention that reduced anxiety by 48% in a meta-analysis, and with low dose gave relief to 30% on those with depression , and with an increased dose, that effect increased to 47%? That treatment is available to pretty much all of us…and there are further significant benefits from this …
Teamwork
Love this powerful example of how, when two get together, they are greater than the sum of their parts…and how each celebrate the magic of the chemistry, and choose to powerfully build the other up…and all who watch benefit from seeing this magic.
What Forgiveness is NOT…
Forgiveness is an oft misunderstood concept…and tho simple in its steps, is far from easy to do. Forgiveness is a posture in oneself towards another who has wronged you that moves past the pain of the wrong, to open oneself up to larger possibilities…it focuses on the fullness of life, rather than the wrong of …
What Forgiveness is…
Ever take a poorly trained labrador retriever for a walk? It’s tricky. and chaotic. and a little crazy…maybe even feeling a little dangerous. As a matter of fact…who’d you be kidding…it would be the dog taking YOU for a walk. The dog would decide how fast you’d go, when you’d stop, and how far off …
Listen to your Body
Sabrina Friesen, a therapist with us at Bergen and Associates, sent me a link this week to a blog entry that I found pretty cool…it said, in part: That’s when my body started talking to me. You’ve got to trust me. When I am hungry I will tell you. You’ll hear it in chambered echos, …
When a Little Pain is a Big Pain–for real
Sometimes it hurts a lot even when it isn’t a big deal…because even when it doesn’t look like a big deal, it’s a big deal. Confusing? Yep. Let me explain it with a story… so, last week, a junior tribe member got an unexpected lower limb fashion accessory late in the evening: It’s broken. It …
A Thought
The opposite of talking isn’t listening. The opposite of talking is waiting. – Fran Lebowitz