Sometimes it hurts a lot even when it isn’t a big deal…because even when it doesn’t look like a big deal, it’s a big deal. Confusing? Yep. Let me explain it with a story… so, last week, a junior tribe member got an unexpected lower limb fashion accessory late in the evening: It’s broken. It …
A Thought
The opposite of talking isn’t listening. The opposite of talking is waiting. – Fran Lebowitz
Injustice and Wounding
Life isn’t fair. No big surprise…but somehow when life shows us how unfair it is…it’s still something to wrap one’s head around it. This is my bumper’s new look: It happened last week…I ran errands, stopped here and there, spent some time in various places…and at the last stop of the night, when I walked …
The Facets of Grief
…frankly, “I miss him” just doesn’t cut it. That’s like a desperate, starving person saying, “I guess I wouldn’t mind a little snack.” When I say, “I miss him,” it makes me snaky inside because those limp, colourless words in no way reflect the enormous scope or the complex detail of what I feel. So …
Connecting without Talking about it
A man’s greatest suffering, Stosny says, comes from the shame he feels when he doesn’t measure up—which is why discussing relationship problems (i.e., what he’s doing wrong) offers about as much comfort as sleeping on a bed of nails. from Oprah.com “Talking about feelings, which is soothing to women, makes men physically uncomfortable,” says …
A Thought
“Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition”. Alexander Smith
Nurture changes brain structure
School-age children whose mothers nurtured them early in life have brains with a larger hippocampus, a key structure important to learning, memory and response to stress. …”This study validates something that seems to be intuitive, which is just how important nurturing parents are to creating adaptive human beings,” says lead author Joan L. Luby, MD, …
My Inside VS Your Outside
“You’re comparing your inside to other people’s outsides” I was talking with my colleague, Gail Shaver, when this line came up in conversation as something she had said earlier that week. It sounds pretty obvious as one reads this, that this would be an unfair comparison, doesn’t it? Not so obvious to live. Have you: …
A Prayer of Disturbance
Disturb us, Lord, when We are too pleased with ourselves, When our dreams have come true Because we dreamed too little, When we arrived safely Because we sailed too close to the shore. Disturb us, Lord, when with the abundance of things we possess We have lost our thirst For the waters of life; Having …
Discovering Inner Capacity
Sometimes, the best way to find inner capacity is to be in a situation where it is required…and it simply shows up…or maybe it was there all along… So…giving the refrigerator a vacation as suggested by the repairman…nice idea, but not effective. The silly fridge may have enjoyed the R and R…but when we plugged …