John Gottman on Anderson Cooper

John Gottman was recently on Anderson Cooper’s show and there was some great stuff talked about that highlighted some of the practical applications of his scientific research Gottman is a well respected couple’s relationship researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will get divorced by looking, over the course of about 3 …

A Brave Mama Calls

Got an email from a dear friend, Nellie * yesterday…and she told me of how she had spoken with her son that day. No big deal for many moms…but for this mama, it was a once in lifetime experience….literally. Nellie received an email from her son who she has not seen in 36 years…she released …

Make Mistakes

Like many folks this time of year, I was attending high school graduation festivities last week. The speaker at one of the events quoted C.S. Lewis in his speech: I loved the endorsement to fall…the expectation that falling is necessary. What I particularly loved was how the student themselves reinforced this principal, unwittingly as they …

Evening sessions now available downtown

Evening counselling sessions work for people…lots of folks work during regular weekday office hours, and so it makes sense that when potential clients call for counselling, they want evening or weekend times for therapy. For many people, daytime sessions are just simply not an option. So, we’ve responded to the shortage of evening sessions by …

Interrupting the imperceptible slide into infidelity

A week ago I blogged about the imperceptible, irresistible slide into infidelity. Part 1 then…then life happened…part 2 now. One of the funnest parts of my job is working with couples about to get married. They don’t come in with relationship problems…they come in because they know that premarital counselling is a great idea. On …

Dancing with a limp today

Today the skies are cloudy and grey…and for me, it is fitting. This is the day of visiting the grave, and remembering what might have been. An annual day of sadness that is as much a part of my life as Christmas and birthdays. Some years it has a gut wrenching quality to it…other years, …

2012 Manitoba Marathon Relay

Manitoba Marathon 2012 is history…and the Bergen & Associates Counselling team finished. I humbly say, “We were AWESOME”!   Sabrina Friesen handing off the timing belt to me…doesn’t she look great at the end of her leg? Three of the five of us were Manitoba Marathon virgins and thoroughly enjoyed the excitement and the enthusiasm …

The Imperceptible, Irresistible Slide into Infidelity Part 1

I’ve worked extensively with couples in the immediate, devastating, agonizing aftermath of the discovery of an affair. It’s hard to watch the couple come in…one whose world has been rocked at its very foundations…puffy eyes, a bit of a lostness/wildness about them…and one often very contrite, with poor eye contact, having violated their own moral …