A week ago I blogged about the imperceptible, irresistible slide into infidelity. Part 1 then…then life happened…part 2 now. One of the funnest parts of my job is working with couples about to get married. They don’t come in with relationship problems…they come in because they know that premarital counselling is a great idea. On …
Dancing with a limp today
Today the skies are cloudy and grey…and for me, it is fitting. This is the day of visiting the grave, and remembering what might have been. An annual day of sadness that is as much a part of my life as Christmas and birthdays. Some years it has a gut wrenching quality to it…other years, …
2012 Manitoba Marathon Relay
Manitoba Marathon 2012 is history…and the Bergen & Associates Counselling team finished. I humbly say, “We were AWESOME”! Sabrina Friesen handing off the timing belt to me…doesn’t she look great at the end of her leg? Three of the five of us were Manitoba Marathon virgins and thoroughly enjoyed the excitement and the enthusiasm …
Manitoba Marathon 2012–Here we come!
Manitoba Marathon time is here. The annual Father’s Day tradition is a couple of days away, and we here at Bergen & Associates Counselling are PUMPED!! Roshonna Plett has organized a bunch of us into a relay team. Starting off will be Michael Quiring, who, after handing off the timing belt will go on to …
The Imperceptible, Irresistible Slide into Infidelity Part 1
I’ve worked extensively with couples in the immediate, devastating, agonizing aftermath of the discovery of an affair. It’s hard to watch the couple come in…one whose world has been rocked at its very foundations…puffy eyes, a bit of a lostness/wildness about them…and one often very contrite, with poor eye contact, having violated their own moral …
The richness of both/and living
Life would be easier and simpler (though not better) living in an “either/or” world, rather than a “both/and” world. I may fail often, but I choose, as much as possible, as a matter of personal policy, to choose, “both/and” living. Lemme explain. I used to work in a rehab clinic helping people figure out how …
Sitting Well with Regret
One of my new favorite things to listen to while I am running (btw, I’m humbly/happily on target to be able to contribute my leg of the relay in the upcoming Manitoba Marathon with the Bergen and Associates Counselling team) is a podcast from NPR radio which repackages a few TED talks into a group …
My Anxiety Victory
Small confession here…I’ve taught at the university for years, but have always been intimidated by the whole academia thing…I’ve sometimes felt that if they really knew me, they wouldn’t ask me to teach…because, y’know really, you should be really, really smart to work at the university. I’ve read about this in the literature as “imposter …
Congrats to Nadia and Tom!
Nadia is Married!! Melanie, Roshonna and I motored on south past Winkler yesterday to celebrate with Nadia and Tom. Tom and Nadia were married just over two weeks ago in her childhood home in Ontario. Tom’s family, and many of their friends (including us!) are in Manitoba….so they had a Manitoba party with family and …
And now, we interrupt your crap…
…for a brief interlude of joy. Take it, and enjoy the minute (or actually 5 minutes)…tell me it doesn’t make you smile, or bring tears to your eyes, as you enjoy friends and family helping one man create a memory of a lifetime for his bride-to-be. We all have the constant dribble of the …