Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. I’ve had a few conversations lately with people who want to be closer to a spouse, and so they complain bitterly to them about how they aren’t home enough and no surprise, they aren’t home more after that want a teenage child to be less obnoxious and disrespectful, and …
Is it a problem? The fireworks are gone!
In the last of the series of 5 surprising but important life lessons that psychological research, Psychology Today looks at the value of mature deepening love. Couples can be alarmed, or wonder if they should “throw in the towel” when the hot and heavy blush of the relationship is gone. When couples go from “can’t keep …
500th post–Life Lesson #4–Value of Connection
This is my 500th post…a bit of a marker for me on this cold dreary wet October morning. That’s kind of a big deal. When I was finishing high school, I did one of those “career aptitude” tests. It suggested that my top options were to be a nurse or a nun. The latter seemed …
Think about how you talk in front of your children
In honor of anti-bullying month this October, watch this and think about how you talk about others in front of your children, your friends and your colleagues. We all learn from each other about how it is acceptable to talk about other people. Unfortunately, the internet and social media have made it too easy …
Life Lessons #3 Opposites don’t forever attract
We’ve all been told that opposite attract…well…that might be true for magnets and for black cat hair on white pants…but not so much for couples. We continue our series looking at the 5 surprising but valid principles of relationships outlined in the latest issue of Psychology Today. For a long lasting union, look for someone …
Empowering from the Inside Out
Let’s face it…when men meet for coffee, they get their coffee, talk for 20 minutes and go home. Why? Because they finished their coffee. When women meet for coffee, they get a steaming extra hot latte…so that it too hot to drink for 20 minutes…then they sip it glacially slowly. When there is about 1/4 …
Life Lesson #2 Benign Neglect
The second of the series featuring unlikely and surprising but important principles for living well…we’ll start with a story… Not so long ago, one of my junior tribe members asked to go outside in dark late at night with a friend (who didn’t have his license) and practice parallel parking on the street with our …
Lesson for Living #1 Radical Acceptance
The latest edition of Psychology Today has a key article emphasizing the fundamental importance of relationships in having any sort of healthy and satisfying life…relationships being key to overall life satisfaction, physical health, and resilience to stressors. Relationships, are simply a key to a vitalized life. The Psycholgoy Today article, entitled Lessons for Living, outlined …
Community–The value of “me too”
Brené Brown was on the brand new Katie show last week…she was great in encouraging folks to dare greatly to be authentically themselves. Jenny Lawson, blogger and author…and sufferer of anxiety…opened the door to a candid look at her anxiety through her writing. That took courage. She didn’t want to create a “false history” that …
Crying
If I had a dollar for every time someone apologized to me for crying, I just might be able to retire as independently wealthy. Crying is so often seen as a sign of weakness, or something to feel bad about…like somehow watching someone cry might be offensive to me. It seems almost automatic for most …