Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh published a study this fall that looked at the relationship between teens being yelled at and their behaviour. The results were inconvenient, to say the least, to parents who use yelling as a form of steering their teenager into appropriate behaviour. To put it quite simply, the study found …
The Marriage Hack
What if I told you a way to sustain the quality of your marriage could be done in 3 chunks of 7 minutes of writing three times a year..21 minutes to ensure your marriage doesn’t deteriorate? Would you do it? Sounds too good to be true? I love life hacks…simple strategies that can make a …
Hump Day Nudge: Getting off the Bench
We are made to live in community…and we do well when we help each other out. I saw this video recently…only 68 seconds long, it inspires me to look around and make myself available to help another who needs it. Darnell Barton is going along, doing his job, and notices that someone needs help. He …
The Woman Cold
So…last post about the man cold…and this one about the woman cold. And now is when the woman say: What woman cold? There is no such thing as a woman cold. I don’t have time to be sick”. Yes. exactly. That would be the exact context of the woman cold. You see, women struggle with …
The Man Cold
You’ve seen this, or a version of it, while watching a commercial for cough syrup or cold symptoms, right? Some research suggests that women are biologically more sensitive to pain and therefore more likely to struggle during illness. Other research suggests that men have different temperature receptors in their brain and feel “rougher” during the …
The dark side of integrity–terror! :)
As a therapist, I have a front row seat every day to displays of raw courage. There ain’t nothing like it…I see people take enormous risks and say things out loud that they’ve never even dared form into an official thought inside their head. It’s awesome…truly. A gift that clients give me daily is to …
Hump Day Nudge: Kindness changes the giver
November 13th is the International Day of Kindness…let’s celebrate!! Quote by Lao Tzu I love stories of pure kindness that comes in unlikely places to a person who could use a dose of grace in their lives. I love those stories even better when a person extending the kindness experiences change inside that transforms who …
The Daring Way ™
I can remember the moment, fundamentally, my perspective changed. Years, ago, I began dancing with a limp…I birthed the most beautiful, perfect little boys you could imagine…they were born silently. No screaming or crying. Ever. I was heartbroken. Heck, I was just plain broken. Period. My dream of having children, a life long passionate dream, …
______ makes me happy
I took this year off of teaching as a self proclaimed “sabbatical-type” year…this year I have only one job and I’m focusing on it, able to take a course in clinical supervision so that I might be a more effective clinical supervisor, and getting my certification in Brené Brown’s The Daring Way program. It’s given …
Best tip: Reconnect when you notice disconnection
Find ways to reconnect emotionally when you notice a disconnection. Sounds obvious, huh? Well, it is, right now, because you’re not steamed, not feeling resentful, guilty, angry, or frustrated. And so you aren’t defensive, belligerent, argumentative, fearful, attacking or withdrawing. Relationships seem so obvious and easy when you’re calm and reading blogs, aren’t they? Not …