The first of a series on apologies and forgiveness… Even when it is totally obvious that s/he has messed up, my mother/husband/friend/child has huge trouble apologizing. It drives me crazy. Why is it so hard to apologize? Apologizing is hard. Absolutely. Apologizing takes courage, because it puts a person in a vulnerable space to apologize. …
Hump Day Nudge: Giving the Best
Y’know how we often say in December…Wouldn’t it be nice to keep the Christmas spirit the whole year through? Y’know, that feeling we feel so powerfully between Christmas and New Year’s of: family is important relationships are stuff of life slowing down to spend time with friends and family is life-giving? Yeah, I say …
Embracing the Internal Discomfort
I went walking with a friend last week at the Forks. There were people skating on the ice in front of the Forks…but nobody was on the ice past the orange pylons and yellow tape. Good thing…because as cold as it was, there was open water on the river. My pal and I walked on …
Balance
(Sabrina Friesen wrote and sent this to me a few weeks ago in mid-December…back when it was warmer and much slushier…it is being published now with Carolyn finally finished her family gatherings! 🙂 Balance. It’s not a new word. We’ve all heard it. We apparently should all be striving for this in our lives in …
The Long Winter
Years ago, I was in the hospital on bed rest, with a high risk pregnancy that threatened to turn into a premature birth at any moment. I was to have as low an activity level as possible…which sounds like a dream come true for the mother of a toddler…but it got old pretty quick. I …
Slow deeply
I love Christmas Day. One of my favourite things of the whole year is to be outside in the quiet on Christmas Day. In the middle of a large city like Winnipeg, on Christmas Day there is a quiet hush. The stores are closed. No one is bustling to get anywhere…there may be some cars …
A small light in a big darkness
Today is my annual so-low-that-down-is-up day–I blog about it every year (here in 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013). The day when we have the least amount of light, and the most amount of darkness. The day that launches a time when the days will only have more light than the day before. More light is coming…just …
Tis the Season for Shopping
I took two afternoons off from work last week, playing hooky to go the malls to shop for Christmas presents. I thought I’d do it during the day when malls were a little emptier, and I’d dedicate the time to wandering around, being open to ideas I hadn’t thought of, and making purchases to check …
Prioritizing the Important over the Urgent
Boiling water for tea is a good thing, except when it’s too much. And when it’s too much, it’s not a good thing, because it’s too much. Let me explain. At our office, we don’t use the harsh overhead flourescent lights in the counselling rooms. My thinking is that uncovering and exposing parts of oneself …
Benefits of being meaningfully loved
“We all long for loving connections. A hand to hold that changes our world.” Dr. Susan Johnson EFT guru I’m a science geek…I love to learn things. To know what works, and how it works, and what we can learn from understanding our world better using scientific research. We were created for relationships…we need relationships …