Gail Shaver has been working with couples–before and after marriage–for years. She watched her own daughter get married this summer. She is aware of the research that says that couples who co-habitate before getting married have increased rate of divorce. She also knows that couples who are married have a greater likelihood of making it …
3 strategies to get out of debt that aren’t about money
I blogged recently about the ways in which money/debt problems, at their root, aren’t really about money. It follows then, that the way to get out of money/debt problems isn’t about first worrying about the budgets, or debt consolidation, or developing a spreadsheet. Those things are important…but not the first line of resolution. So here …
4 reasons why people go into debt that aren’t about money
I went to the nutrition class in gym. I have a computer with Google. So, I have knowledge about what my body needs and what is healthy and good, but I often eat when I’m not hungry, and I’m usually not overeating with fruits and veggies. Simply, I use food for things other than nutrition. …
#1 of 10 Top Relationship Skills: Attunement
Lindsey Walsh completes his series of Top 10 Relationship Skills with this blog. The series has been a popular one. See the bottom to review the previous 9, if you’re interested in catching up on past entries in the series! “ [T]aking time to focus attention on the inner experience in the moment actually also makes us …
Introducing…Tami Shahnawaz
This week we welcomed a new therapist to our office. Tami is new to our office, but familiar and respected amongst professionals in our city. Tami Shahnawaz has been working in the city for a few years…and we’re thrilled that she is joining us. There’s a couple of things that I’ve already noticed about Tami: …
A Letter to the American People
Hello American Neighbors… You are next door to the south of us. We watch your televsion shows, we shop in your stores, we send you our fabulous musicians to enjoy, and some of our vast country’s resources. I’ve lived in the U.S. when I was studying and enjoyed the experience. Many of you have visited our beautiful …
A Scarf of Warmth, A Basket of Care
It’s lonely to have an eating disorder. Or maybe, people have an eating disorder because they have a loneliness. Or maybe both. I remember the winter that First Husband was thinking he would leave…but had not yet left. I was in such turmoil, I would forget to eat. Sometimes, I was so worried about what …
#2 of Top Ten: Practice Gratitude and Check your Facts
Last night I was hurt by something that I thought my director had done. In the morning I wrote to her about this. She responded by saying that she hadn’t done that. I double checked and, sure enough, she was innocent. I felt like a jerk.[1] The irony is this: Even when I thought …
September 29
Two years ago, I was driving home from the west coast in early September, rather bereft. I was a little scared and a lot lost. You see, I’d been a single mom for almost a decade. I’d been single-mindedly focused on getting my Junior Tribe Members “all growed up”. That meant working, driving, cooking, connecting with …
A Letter to Dahlia: TGDK
Dear Dahlia, Your signature, “TGPF”-Thank Good People Friday is something you are famous for in the city. You have made the city a kinder and gentler place, as you encourage people to express gratitude for a kindness they have received in their lives. Gratitude is a value we both share as vital…so today, for me, on …