I sat with a dear friend yesterday-someone who is over 80, and has many friends and family, but no direct descendants. I had my laptop on my knees, and we discussed what would happen after she died. With no children to plan the funeral, who would do what? I wanted to give her the opportunity …
Bergen and Associates is Growing
I have exciting news that I want to share. Bergen and Associates is developing a second location! We have realized that we are outgrowing our current space, and we want to provide quality therapy services for the community that request it. It’s really no fun having to send people away who are asking for help. …
A thought
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain May your feet find a rhythm, may your soul find the music, may your heart find the joy-no matter your situation today.
Happily Married?
John Gottman, author and renowned respected scientist of attachment theory, states that people who stay married live four years longer than people who don’t. Further, couples that are happily married (as evidenced by numerous scientific measurements over the course of two days and a night) show a greater proliferation of white blood cells in response …
Water water everywhere-musings of a therapist
Like much of the rest of the city, I have become one of those people who rushes to the basement on first entering my house. I feel just slightly closer to my ancestors who were farmers…I grew up hearing people talk about going to take a walk around the land, or check out the crops…as …
Working to Escape Life?
The Winnipeg Free Press had a fascinating article yesterday that stated: During the Great Depression in the 1930s, Kellogg’s instituted a six-hour workday in its plants to take up the slack of too many people and not enough jobs, he says. Within two years, workers were accomplishing as much in six hours as they had …
Fighting
Have you seen this video? I saw it for the first time on Friday. It’s got it’s cute moments, but look for the patterns and the way one part plays off the next part. There is a sort of rhythm, almost predictability to the argument-the husband and wife are dancing to the rhythm of the …
Struggling with Self Esteem
It was cold-really cold-outside yesterday. Although this time of year I’d rather be running outside, it just didn’t seem realistic that I would actually get my body outside in the frigid temperatures, so to the indoor track I went. I musta looked might goofy giggling to myself as I ran around on my own around …
Transforming Destructive into Constructive
Anger Management is a cultural cliche in our society, where suggesting it is a way of chiding a person and often, hearing someone has taken it is the source of a joke. Hollywood has had all sorts of fun with “Anger Managment” in various ways. TDC is our anger management program. We’ve been running it …
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Years ago I happened to be at the school yard in the morning on the first day of school in September. The bell had rung about 5 minutes before…the excitement of the first day of school that had the hard top vibrating only a short time ago was now in the school. However, the fire …