Wired for connection

It’s less than a week before TEDx Winnipeg 2018. I’m excited and nervous…and ready to enjoy the day, and then have it in my rear view mirror. I teach and lead and talk and facilitate often in my job–I led a full day retreat last weekend for 200 women and feel comfortable doing so.  But …

Zielschmerz: the dread of getting what you want. John Koenig. On blog about TEDxWinnipeg 2018

Zielschmerz!

I spoke at the graduation ceremony of the Outtatown program at CMU on Sunday.  Just 2 days before, half of them had come back from several months in Guatemala, and the other half from South Africa. Now the room had several rows of young adults with a healthy glow about them, and a gym full …

The special plate: One more way to love your kid. And who doesn't want one more way to show your love?

The special plate

I loved, during the Olympics, watching athletes read letters of love from their parents. Isn’t it beautiful to watch how people are moved by reading how much their parents love them and admire their grit and perseverance? Children weep when witnessing the love and pride of a parent: “Dear Kaitlyn and Andrew…”@WeaverPoje get a letter …

A Hole in the Celebration

My nephew was married last week to his beautiful bride, the love of his life. The one, above all other, that has captured his heart forever. Warm hearts shone bright through the frigid day.  Even the frozen pipes at the reception venue thawed a full 15 minutes before the wedding started! (Though I suspect it …

There's just a million little memories  That remind me you're not here It's just a different kind of Christmas this year Mark Schultz lyric on Conexus Blog re: grieving at Christmas

Hope in the darkness at Christmas

Today is the shortest day of the year.  The day of the year with the most darkness…just a few days before Christmas. The day I know annually as “So low down is up” day. I suspect that for many, it is fitting that day that feels bleakest and is, indeed, the darkest, falls around Christmas. …

New Book: My Marriage is Almost Dead…

I heard a story about some acquaintances  a few days ago…the couple had been married for several years.  The wife was unhappy, but she hated confrontation.  She didn’t want to say anything that would hurt her husband. She didn’t want to be the source that created long and difficult conversations. So she said nothing. The situation …

Carolyn's Mistake. A blog about what I decided to do about a big expensive mistake I made.

A Mistake?

As I was going to bed on a Friday night a few weeks ago, it was quiet, and my mind lazily drifted back over the day. My mind went back to an email I had received earlier in the day, outlining next week’s schedule for Courage Camp, a conference for Certified Daring Way Facilitators.  I love delivering …

Self Compassion 101

Note: Time and date change to November 15, 6 pm-9 pm due to popular demand   If you talked to a friend like you talked to yourself, would you have any friends left? Many days, if I spoke to my friends with the same words and tone I use inside my head, it would not …