On a therapist's fourth wedding anniversary: Oh to be loved with a love like this.

To be loved with a love like this…

I am sooo not a morning person. Husband is. He is ever bright and cheerful (and ridiculously chatty) first thing early in the morning. Often, in the morning when I don’t have it together to make something for lunch, Husband puts a cup of  Cheerios in a little bag for me to get me through …

Every act of kindness pokes a hole in the darkness..Bonnie on blog about poking holes in darkness

Poking holes in darkness

We are wired for connection. People belong in community. We need each other. I explained my passion for the value of connection between humans in my 2018 TEDx Winnipeg talk, weaving the metaphor of the interconnected sequoia trees with stories of connection in my life. The sequoia tress, one of the tallest trees in the …

You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Dr. Suess

A dream come true

This past week was a dream of a lifetime come true. All my life, I have wondered what it would be like to have a week all to myself at an all inclusive resort. Able to eat when I want, sleep when I want, read a lot. All on my own schedule. The dream, in …

TEDx: Interconnections

Wired for connection. That’s my line…it comes up more weeks than not during my weekly time on 680CJOB with Hal Anderson. I talk about our essential need for vital relationship in workshops, on blogs, in therapy and well, basically everywhere. When Ian McClausland interviewed and photographed me for his fiftyX50 project, it was only natural …

Picture of a cell phone holder "Be all here" cell phone catcher reminds us to put our cell phones here and be fully present with the ones we love. PIc of a catcher made of barnwood style wood

Be with the ones here

We had an out-of-town family wedding last month. It was beautiful–great efforts were expended to look after every detail of the day.  On our way home in the airport, I asked everyone at supper about their favourite “memory snapshot”. Some of the responses: time with the other groomsmen while the couple was off taking pictures …

Snickers is Huband's favorte...and I didn't know. It reminded me about being deligent about the love map I have for Husband. Snickers bar on wood background

Snickers and Love Maps

This idea is part of a book I’ve written about couples…men and women each doing the best they can–and having a resource to do even better. If you like this blog, you may want to buy the whole book! Husband and I have been married for over 3 years. I thought I knew Husband. I found …

Wired for connection

It’s less than a week before TEDx Winnipeg 2018. I’m excited and nervous…and ready to enjoy the day, and then have it in my rear view mirror. I teach and lead and talk and facilitate often in my job–I led a full day retreat last weekend for 200 women and feel comfortable doing so.  But …

Depression Support 101

Depression is a scary diagnosis when it happens to someone living in your house. When depression hits someone you love, it’s so hard to figure out how to be meaningfully supportive. It’s so much easier to support someone with a broken leg than with a heart that feels lifeless and heavy, isn’t it? In this …