one of the definitive moments in my life was realizing that most of us are brave and afraid in the exact same moment all day long. Brené Brown quote on picture of a woman on an adventure platform. On blog about feeling big and different feelings: nevertheless

Nevertheless…you got this

I posted a picture last week, the day before school started on Facebook: I wanted to encourage the students, the teachers, and everyone else that was and is starting something new and exciting and terrifying and wonderful and nervewracking. Hal Anderson read it and got choked up.  It touched on the part of him that …

Three years of marriage...leather. Celebrating the third anniversary of marriage with Husband

Third Anniversary–Leather

It has been three years since Husband and I stood before family and friends to commit our lives to each other…our third anniversary.  Maybe now we are an old married couple? 😉 Pastor John was one of the officiants at our ceremony. He means a lot to both of us, as he has had significant …

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you could not know quote on background of basket of spring tulips on blog about regret around not removing an icy patch that played a role in a tragedy.

March 29

Y’know in the movies, when there is that ominous sound? Well, in my mind, the cute little dog isn’t included…but I have often heard a sound rather like that as the calendar approaches March 29th. My body could feel the day coming.  The March breezes don’t have quite the bite that February winds do. We …

Depression Support 101

Depression is a scary diagnosis when it happens to someone living in your house. When depression hits someone you love, it’s so hard to figure out how to be meaningfully supportive. It’s so much easier to support someone with a broken leg than with a heart that feels lifeless and heavy, isn’t it? In this …

Problems become possibilities

I’ve been thinking a lot as we go into the new year about using the challenges of life as an opportunity to be creative, to grow, and learn, and make something even better than was before. Challenges can inspire creativity and options considered that wouldn’t have been otherwise been needed. This thinking started with a …

Oops! A Therapist forgets empathy

A few weeks ago, Husband’s finger lingered over the “send” button on a text.  For a looong time, his finger hovered over the message. We had talked about it.  We had together decided on a course of action with a family member. And now, he was doing his part of the implementation, and as we sat on …

Scammed

This week, someone tried to scam us at the office.  Twice on the same day. For several weeks of someone from another country asking to set up a series of appointments with us while here on an extended leave.  Melanie’s spidey sense said something wasn’t quite right, though nothing she could specifically point to.  The gentleman …

Speaking out emotional truth

I was reminded recently that growing in emotional awareness is hard work. Speaking the truth that arises out of that awareness is a lot of hard work. It can be so automatic to act passively when we have learned through painful experiences (often as children) to do whatever we can to blend in. Going with the flow …

Borderland: The Excruciating Wait

We don’t have a by-line for Jonathan Scrivens on the blog…he wrote this. He and I were talking one day and he spoke about the living agony of awaiting his child’s birth these days–the waiting, the unknown.  So often, when people write, they write from the perspective of the ending…after it is over.  They write …

Let’s Talk–It’s good!

  Years and years ago, Mary and I began a friendship. When Former Husband and I moved to Winnipeg, she and her husband were the first family to invite us over to a meal in their home. Eventually, (small world) she and FH became co-workers…and we often got together as couples for double dates. He …