Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Letter to Dr. Blasey Ford It's terrible having to testify and heartbreaking what happened and the impact on her. My understanding is forever changed...one man's reaction to Dr. Blasey Ford's testimony

Changed: An open letter to Dr. Blasey Ford

Dear Dr. Blasey Ford, Today was a day unlike any other for you. A day you’d avoided for literally decades, and then, with the eyes of the world literally watching on live television, you re-lived the most traumatic moments of your life. I’m shaking a little, with tears in my eyes just imagining what that …

Therapist won't insult you by giving you advice on blog about what therapists do in session. Sharing expertise with the client

Dear client: We don’t give advice

Dear client, When you come in for your first appointment, you may ask a question. I get asked this question a lot. So many clients, when they come for their first appointment give an outline of a very painful situation in their lives and then ask, “What is your advice?” There are different ways people …

one of the definitive moments in my life was realizing that most of us are brave and afraid in the exact same moment all day long. Brené Brown quote on picture of a woman on an adventure platform. On blog about feeling big and different feelings: nevertheless

Nevertheless…you got this

I posted a picture last week, the day before school started on Facebook: I wanted to encourage the students, the teachers, and everyone else that was and is starting something new and exciting and terrifying and wonderful and nervewracking. Hal Anderson read it and got choked up.  It touched on the part of him that …

The magic of street hockey

“Mommy, I think I need to play some street hockey.” When my littlest Junior Tribe Member was a little tyke, he was plagued with frequent, raging ear infections.  His temperature spiked high, his ears hurt bad and he was sick. We would come back from the doctor’s, prescription in hand.  The antibiotics hadn’t yet kicked …

Does your spouse annoy you?

  Hal talks with people and he has his finger on the pulse of what people are saying. .And, as he said on today’s show, he doesn’t much care what other people think. That frees Hal to name topics that other people wonder about but don’t say out loud… Today, we spoke about how to …

Grieving a Pet

Yesterday, during my weekly chat with Hal on 680CJOB, we talked about how real the impact of the death of a pet can be.  As you’ll hear on the recording, one of the guys in the news room pooh-poohed the idea that the death of an animal is actually the death of a family member. …

Picture of a cell phone holder "Be all here" cell phone catcher reminds us to put our cell phones here and be fully present with the ones we love. PIc of a catcher made of barnwood style wood

Be with the ones here

We had an out-of-town family wedding last month. It was beautiful–great efforts were expended to look after every detail of the day.  On our way home in the airport, I asked everyone at supper about their favourite “memory snapshot”. Some of the responses: time with the other groomsmen while the couple was off taking pictures …