Her 50th birthday would have been today. :(

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Dear Car, If things had been different, …the couch I sit at in this moment would have streamers and balloons above it. I suspect your mom would have had you over for the day to occupy you, while your husband decorated and fussed, while your friends came over to put up decorations and loaded food …

You were the reason, George H.W. Bush said when his wife said there must have been a reason his life was saved in WW2.

“You were the reason”-George H.W. Bush

Jon Meacham’s gave a humorous and moving eulogy at Barbara Bush’s funeral in spring of 2018. I find the relationship between George H.W. and Barbara Bush profoundly moving in it’s gentle tenderness. George H.W. Bush was strong and brave. He was also tender and loving. And George H.W. Bush was brave to let his tender …

Take the emotional labor quiz

Take the Emotional Labor Quiz

Husband spent last week in Texas, along with a team of other volunteers, rebuilding a house that was destroyed in last year’s Hurricane Harvey. He has a seasonal business, and that frees him up to be able to do stuff like this…and he is good at building. While he was gone, I was solo parenting …

A collage of 3 pictures highlighting the jersey 11.

Dear Son: Number 11

Dear Son, I remember hearing the thrill in your voice when you called me weeks ago: “Mom, coach told me I’m wearing number 11 this year!!” Number 11–the heart of the team. A well loved player whose legacy was valued and cherished is remembered by number 11. Now it is your job to honour him …

Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts...program developed out of the research of Dr. Brené Brown

Dare to Lead

Another leadership program? Really? Aren’t there enough floating around out there? Yes, there are a lot. But we need this one.  You need this one. Your team will thank you if you absorb this one. Dare to Lead has a fresh emphasis that is lifegiving for leaders and followers alike. A breath of fresh air …

TEDx: Interconnections

Wired for connection. That’s my line…it comes up more weeks than not during my weekly time on 680CJOB with Hal Anderson. I talk about our essential need for vital relationship in workshops, on blogs, in therapy and well, basically everywhere. When Ian McClausland interviewed and photographed me for his fiftyX50 project, it was only natural …

Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Letter to Dr. Blasey Ford It's terrible having to testify and heartbreaking what happened and the impact on her. My understanding is forever changed...one man's reaction to Dr. Blasey Ford's testimony

Changed: An open letter to Dr. Blasey Ford

Dear Dr. Blasey Ford, Today was a day unlike any other for you. A day you’d avoided for literally decades, and then, with the eyes of the world literally watching on live television, you re-lived the most traumatic moments of your life. I’m shaking a little, with tears in my eyes just imagining what that …