Hypothesis of generosity

I want you to think of the last time somebody was angry at you. What were they angry about? Did you actually intend to hurt them? If so, why was it important to hurt them? If not, what did they not understand about you? Maybe you were late for lunch with a friend, but there …

Self Compassion 101

Note: Time and date change to November 15, 6 pm-9 pm due to popular demand   If you talked to a friend like you talked to yourself, would you have any friends left? Many days, if I spoke to my friends with the same words and tone I use inside my head, it would not …

Change and Boredom

My daughter turned two this summer. That’s right – I blinked and suddenly a toddler has entered my world. She’s a firecracker, who’s testing her limits as a typical “terrible two-year-old”, as we so affectionately say at this age! As I write this, I can hear her rumbling around in her room, determined that, today, …

Walking me home

Three years ago, on the September long weekend, I left my Junior Tribe Member at the West Coast. I’ve written before about how I had dreaded the beginning of university for my youngest JTM. It might be irrational, but I felt that after a decade of being a single mom, I was feeling like I was …

An Oak Tree, Planted

  Husband and our youngest Junior Tribe Member and I planted an oak tree yesterday. A wee baby oak.  I’m taller than she is, and I’m not tall. We picked her out at the nursery on Friday. On Saturday, I went to get the dirt while Husband and JTM dug the hole.  Twice as big …

Connection: Family Meal Times

We are wired for connection. We do better when we spend time together with other people.  The first in a series… Family meals are challenging these days. In fall, sometimes seemingly impossible between music lessons, sports teams, parental work demands.  With each family member having a different but full schedule, figuring out how to get …

Controlled Separation: A Marriage Coma

Sometimes, a marriage is in such bad shape, it needs a coma. A Controlled Separation is to a couple, what a Medically Induced Coma is to a severely injured patient. Let me explain: Scientific American wrote an article about Medically Induced Coma.  A medically induced coma is a state of unconsciousness created by highly trained physicians …

The lunch that started something beautiful

I will always remember Sunday lunch of the August long weekend with special fondness. It was the start of a somethin-somethin with Husband and I…though it wasn’t nearly the start of our romance. Husband’s wife, Car had died in late winter. In the months leading to her death, I had asked Car’s sister of how she …