A collage of 3 pictures highlighting the jersey 11.

Dear Son: Number 11

Dear Son, I remember hearing the thrill in your voice when you called me weeks ago: “Mom, coach told me I’m wearing number 11 this year!!” Number 11–the heart of the team. A well loved player whose legacy was valued and cherished is remembered by number 11. Now it is your job to honour him …

Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts...program developed out of the research of Dr. Brené Brown

Dare to Lead

Another leadership program? Really? Aren’t there enough floating around out there? Yes, there are a lot. But we need this one.  You need this one. Your team will thank you if you absorb this one. Dare to Lead has a fresh emphasis that is lifegiving for leaders and followers alike. A breath of fresh air …

TEDx: Interconnections

Wired for connection. That’s my line…it comes up more weeks than not during my weekly time on 680CJOB with Hal Anderson. I talk about our essential need for vital relationship in workshops, on blogs, in therapy and well, basically everywhere. When Ian McClausland interviewed and photographed me for his fiftyX50 project, it was only natural …

Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …

Letter to Dr. Blasey Ford It's terrible having to testify and heartbreaking what happened and the impact on her. My understanding is forever changed...one man's reaction to Dr. Blasey Ford's testimony

Changed: An open letter to Dr. Blasey Ford

Dear Dr. Blasey Ford, Today was a day unlike any other for you. A day you’d avoided for literally decades, and then, with the eyes of the world literally watching on live television, you re-lived the most traumatic moments of your life. I’m shaking a little, with tears in my eyes just imagining what that …

Therapist won't insult you by giving you advice on blog about what therapists do in session. Sharing expertise with the client

Dear client: We don’t give advice

Dear client, When you come in for your first appointment, you may ask a question. I get asked this question a lot. So many clients, when they come for their first appointment give an outline of a very painful situation in their lives and then ask, “What is your advice?” There are different ways people …

one of the definitive moments in my life was realizing that most of us are brave and afraid in the exact same moment all day long. Brené Brown quote on picture of a woman on an adventure platform. On blog about feeling big and different feelings: nevertheless

Nevertheless…you got this

I posted a picture last week, the day before school started on Facebook: I wanted to encourage the students, the teachers, and everyone else that was and is starting something new and exciting and terrifying and wonderful and nervewracking. Hal Anderson read it and got choked up.  It touched on the part of him that …