“The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” Victor Hugo
One of the greatest privileges of working with couples who are in various stages of marital crisis, is the chance to work with them to create an environment where a person can experience in new ways, so much so that it might seem like that, for the very first time, a person “gets it” that s/he is loved.
It is a humbling, earth-shattering moment to witness a breakthrough where one spouse dares to open up vulnerably and courageously about the level of love that s/he has for the other. (Not easy to do when hurt and pain are what brings them to counselling!) And the other person dares to believe…risks believing, at a heart level, that the love that was expressed was genuine, authentic and expressed freely without obligation.
The freedom that comes with knowing that one is loved allows creativity, excitement and generosity that is truly fun to watch. Being loved is a drug that creates a natural high.
Seriously. Oxytocin kicks in that bathes the brain in chemicals that say “Ahh”, like a bubble bath feels to someone who has worked too hard all day.
Have you given your loved one a “fix” today?