Work? Do you like it? According to American research (and I’m not sure Canada would be far different on this one), only 30% of employees find themselves engaged at work. Yikes! “For most of us…work is a depleting, dispiriting experience.” Schwartz and Porath Two ways in which I connect with this: 1. I remember …
Being OK not being OK
I posted this on Facebook a few days ago… I loved this quote because it reminds me of Kristin Neff’s work on self compassion…Self compassion includes these components, and this poster picks up particularly on the last one: Self kindness: “When I mess up, do I talk to myself like I talk to someone I …
A Swing Bridge: Like Counselling
Reprinted from our archives…feeling a little nostalgia with our lease renewal and remembering how we made the current space our own… Sometimes changing it up a little creates new conversation. That can be a good thing. That happened in our office this week.I’ve had a picture of the Sequoias in my office for about 11 …
Hump Day Nudge: We belong to each other
We belong to each other. We have better immunity, improved cardiovascular heath, less anxiety, lower rates of depression…simply, we do better when we live in community. We do better when we give each other hugs, exchange handshakes, tell each other our stories, lean on each other for support, celebrate and mourn together. We all do …
Hump Day Nudge: Welcome to the world
This is so not my first day on earth, but I have to admit that this was a few minutes well spent to remind myself of what it means to live on this earth: Enjoy your day…and have a corn dog if the spirit moves you–and it just might!
100 days of no dessert Part 1
There are all sorts of reasons I find enormous value and joy in being a therapist. One of those reasons is the personal enrichment I gain from watching courageous people take risks in talking about areas of their life most people don’t even let themselves think about. I get a front row seat to courageous …
The Movement: True beauty is real
I love this video that has popped up in a few places: It’s like these women are almost surprised at how disappointed they are at how they don’t/want/can’t own the beauty of the faces in these photos..the retouched, bleached, refined, blemish-removed, pore-airbrushed faces…just not seeing that perfected “beauty” in the image, and owning it as …
Hump Day Nudge: True Grit
I went to a book launch this evening for the book, When Quitting is NOT an Option, written by Arvid Loewen, with assistance by his son, Paul Loewen. I’ve written about who I affectionally call, my-crazy-Uncle Arvid before, back when he set a Guiness World Record in ultra marathon cycling. Often, people hang up their …
Hump Day Nudge: Helping others
I loved this video…just a minute long, and beautiful…finding creative and unexpected ways to help. Hang in until 26 seconds…when it becomes clear: It’s not always easy to know how to help someone who feels intimidating, a little scary, mebbe even dangerous…but that doesn’t mean it’s not impossible. Even bears can be in desperate …
Internal representations of others
I blogged recently about the way adolescents, mostly girls, have incredible, seemingly blind support for Justin Bieber, which seems exuberant to a level that hardly fits the situation: He lives 1000’s of miles away, they have never spoken to him, but they believe they have known him because of how much time they have spent …