I’m alive…that’s something to be grateful for. Every once in a while, the Maker of Life has an opportunity to teach me something that affirms that truth–all the more valuable a lesson when I’m not feeling it. Let me tell you the story…I’ll try to leave out painstaking details–some of which make the story even …
The Hard but Worthwhile Road of Infidelity Recovery
“Can I ever get past this? Can we ever get past this? Can I ever trust again? Do I want to try?” These are questions I’ve heard painfully asked often as couples deal with the raw emotional pain of infidelity. There was a powerful letter from Brenda Mohan in the Winnipeg Free Press paper today. …
Premarital Counselling helps my Grandkids?
The emotional health of your grandchildren may be one of the most underrated and most compelling reasons for premarital counselling. I’m not making this up. This will make sense in a minute or two. I promise. The second half of this video is important for the discussion: So…how does what a child needs to …
Quick Couple Evaluation
Here is a very quick video from the highly respected Dr. John Gottman, a researcher who’s done a fantastic job of measuring relationship success. One of the most significant results of his research is his ability, with 95% accuracy to be able to suggest the likelihood of a couple’s long term relationship success. He’s for …
Not just a cute quip
Age does not protect us from love, But love to some extent protects us from age. Jeanne Moreau It’s for real folks. People who are lonely die sooner. Eeek. Julianne Holt-Lunstad, an associate psychology professor at Brigham Young University, found that isolation of lonely people carries a health-risk equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes or …
Being Who You Were Born To Be
The sparkling light in someone’s eyes and a relaxed smile is one of the most beautiful sights in all humankind…to see someone relaxed and enjoying the world being in their own skin is captivating and enlivening for others to watch. Susan Boyle, the youngest of a large family, survived a brain injury at birth and …
Cherished Personal Narratives
We often don’t realize how sometimes, when we get ticked off at someone, it is less about what s/he is going and more because s/he’s messin’ with our heads. While we may not like what a person is doing, we may not like, even more, what it does to the internal unspoken but very real …
What happens at a first counselling session?
With a few trips to the electronics store, and a little trial and error, me and mine (well, mostly the “mine”, to tell the truth) have figured out how to make and upload videos. I’m kinda liking how it turned out. Although I’m a bit of an introvert by nature, and being in front of …
Validation for Childhood Trauma
Those who struggle with memories and bodily effects of childhood trauma won’t be surprised by the news in The Winnipeg Free Press today. Hypervigilance, which is a super-aware-alertness to the world around, with particular attention to impending danger is exhausting, and wears on a body. Those who grew up in a chaotic, dangerous household, that …
The Whole without the Sum of its Parts
Guessing what the puzzle looks like when you haven’t got all the pieces means you end up with something that feels right, but may be far from the truth. That isn’t rocket science. But unwittingly, we live out lives in the fantasy that we know what the puzzle looks like, even when we don’t have …