From www.StayHitched.com:
Is Premarital Counselling for you?
The short answer is a resounding YES. Getting married without pre-marriage prep is like starting a business or any important venture without preparing. Half of all marriages end in divorce and only half of those that endure are truly happy in the long run. Many happy engaged couples assume that they won’t be contributing to these statistics. Some mistakenly believe that having lived together or known each other for a long time will prepare them for marriage. Surprisingly, research shows that cohabiting couples have no better chance at marriage success than others.
If you just wing it and count on your luck and romantic attachment to make your marriage a success, your odds are only one in four. There is another way.
I’m in the relationship preservation and restoration business. I love what I do…there’s nothing better than helping a person discover that s/he really enjoys being the person that s/he is (relationship to self), or helping a couple reconnect after a time of disconnect (interpersonal relationships), or helping someone discover their relationship to their Maker (relationship to God). But my dream (and it is a dream, I know) is to work myself out of a job…to have people maintain and enhance their connections so that repair becomes unnecessary.
That’s where premarital counselling comes in. My tech team (ok, there’s just one of him, but he’s good and “team” sounds fun) just finished a video on premarital counselling. I love the idea that couples give themselves the opportunity to build skills in areas that are helpful for them as they prepare for a lifetime together. Premarital counselling is a great gift to give the happy couple as a gift, or to gift yourselves.
Ironically, couples will often not want to spend several hundred dollars on premarital counselling because of the number of expenses associated with getting married. Question: What percentage of the budget is going towards the single day of celebration? What percentage of the budget is going towards preparing you as a couple for the rest of your lives? Where will you invest?
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