“We all long for loving connections.

A hand to hold that changes our world.”

I’m a science geek…I love to learn things. To know what works, and how it works, and what we can learn from understanding our world better using scientific research.

We were created for relationships…we need relationships to survive.

The anchors on those fingers?  Yeah…being loved does that.

Feeling secure, knowing you belong–it anchors a person.  And when a person is securely anchored, it creates a sense of balance.  Kind like when I learned to play basketball…feet shoulder width apart, knees slightly bent, weight over both feet, arms held up in front–this was known as the “triple threat position”…this balanced and anchored position put a person in optimal position to pass, shoot or dribble. Being loved in a meaningful relationship does that in our lives…we are better able to tackle challenges, have difficult conversations, and move forward effectively.

Our brains do better, we function better, we can solve problems better, and we move through the world more effectively when we have meaningful, life giving relationships in our lives. Science is demonstrating that to us objectively and clearly.

We know that couples do better when they are connected.  We all do better when we have meaningful connections with family and a few significant friends.  Scientifically, it has been measured and shown that our lives are enhanced when we have people in our corner that are ARE:

Available:

Responsive:

When I say something, you respond.  You let me know that I matter. Your voice, your body language, your timing tells me that you hear me and you are important to me.

Engaged:

You connect with me…meaningfully.  I can tell that you’re in the conversation, that the relationship is something that you’re working at. You decrease my isolation and increase connection. This is one step beyond available and responsive…you may be around to see me upset about my day, but if you tell me that I’m silly and over reacting, you aren’t engaged with my distress…I will feel disconnected from you.

We become more resilient, tolerant, creative, relaxed, energized, confident and capable.  Heck, we interpret electric shocks differently!