When there has been an unfaithfulness in a relationship, it signifies a break in the covenant made on the wedding day to remain faithful to each other…that is a problem. Not a little one, either. A big problem. However, it is often a symptom of something else. Seeing it as a symptom doesn’t make the …
Boundaries and Connectedness after Infidelity
I admire Jenny Sandford, Mark Sandford’s wife. Mark Sandford is the governor of South Carolina. Mark Sandford’s infidelity with an ongoing relationship with another woman was splashed across the headlines is the last few weeks. She lets us in enough to know that in private is dealing with the devastating effects of her husband’s infidelity, …
Pain and Grace in Infidelity
South Carolina governor, Mark Sanford, was forced to make his affair with an Argentinian woman public after he disappeared for several days. Apparently, it’s not a good idea to tell your staff you are going to the Appalachians and then actually go to Argentina without being reachable. People get concerned and start asking nosy questions. …
Anxiety–A Strategy Gone Wrong Part III
My cat needed a bath…she’s getting older and less able to look after the hard to reach parts. What does this have to do with anxiety—trust me, LOTS!! You shoulda seen her. Her style…frozen while she knows she’s trapped, and then lightening quick at the first opportune moment. And oh, lots of crying…Lily can sound …
A thought
“There is no greater invitation to love than loving first.” St. Augustine
Anxiety–A Strategy Gone Wrong Part II
Imagine this, if you can (and if you can remember high school, you can): Two girlfriends, wired and getting more wound up by the moment, in that high school, hand flapping (picture Sandra Bullock in Miss Congeniality ) sort of way: The first one says: I called my new boyfriend, and he didn’t answer the …
Anxiety–A Strategy Gone Wrong
I remember when I first graduated from Occupational Therapy school…I was working in an outpatient department with patients with workplace injuries. I was inexperienced in many way, and had much to learn. I was embarrassed one day when a patient (not my own) pulled me aside and said, “You know, your client doesn’t speak English …
Manitoba Marathon: Thank-you letter
An open letter to those involved in the Manitoba Marathon: To the organizers of the 2009 Manitoba Marathon: WOW! This is FUN!! There must be details to look after on this event that most of us would never dream of. I look forward to the energy of the start line–thousands of people gathered together …
A thought or two
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. e e cummings Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. e e cummings Go for it!
Grieving
Today looked for many like an ordinary day. I too, looked like I was having an ordinary day…saw clients, made phone calls, dealt with issues, looked after administrative chores at work, and household chores at home. But it only looked ordinary. It didn’t feel ordinary. For weeks, there was an impending sense of waiting for …